well i have three guys..one is in another state for 3 months and the other are here... one here is divorcee with 2 kids and .the other one is separated .and the one in the other states never been married he wants the whole thing...he's a army guy..my question is i'm 26 do you think i'm ready for a serious relationship i've seen so many people get divorced and remarried and divorced...how do i get over this fear? and which one should i stay with? am i ready for the life of a soldier?
2007-01-03 06:02:34 · 11 answers · asked by ladywetherell23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did i mention i'm not sleeping with any of them !!!! i'm seeing them as in talking to them
2007-01-03 06:10:48 · update #1
if you have 3 guys and you don't know which one to pick....you aren't ready for a relationship...no reading in between the lines..
-the one that's separated i wouldn't even go there...he is still married.
-the out of state guy is in the army...that takes a lot of emotional strength, loyalty to him and the relationship to be with a service guy, and if you marry..you become part of the state's property as well (in a way...not like him) ....and honestly you never know if you are ready for the life with a soldier until you are there...but the biggest issue there is you have to already know that if he deploys are you the kind of girl that can be faithful and not cheat? or will you cheat "accidentally" b/c of temptation and him not being there to fill your needs. if you can be faithful...you might can make it work
-the other guy if you aren't ready for kids yet, don't bother either. its not fair to him and his kids to get close and then break it off cause its not what you want...his kids shouldnt have to go through that let alone him go through it.
i actually feel sorry for these guys b/c it almost sounds like you are stringing them along till you can figure out who to be with and in the end 2 of them get hurt b/c you want someone else....you need to be honest with them ALL...they may understand or they may all leave...then you wont have to make a decision
2007-01-03 06:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously not ready for a committed relationship or you wouldn't be seeing three guys. The first two come with emotional baggage, the last with constant worry and seperation. If you have a fear of committing the only solution is to date one guy for as long as you need until you're sure he's the one. Maybe you could speak to some service personnel wives to see what would be instore if you choose the soldier.
2007-01-03 06:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't choose between the three you are not ready, you are not in love with any. when you are you will know because the feeling of wanting no one else will come over you. Right now you are confused not a good sign, when the right guy comes along you will know for sure.
2007-01-03 06:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one you are a whore. that will take some work to get over but it is possible. two tell all of the guys about the other guys. and i promise at least one will leave. that will narrow it down some. then its down to 50/50. do eenie meenie minie mo. and like i said quit bein a whore. if they all had other girls how would you feel? and everyone says guys are the liars. damn scandalous bitc hes.
2007-01-03 06:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A threesome is fun but not to actually have a relationship like that no way! Think there would be jealousy sometimes.
2016-05-22 23:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Candi, this is not meant as an insult, I swear. If you have to ask, then no you are not ready. By asking you are telling us that your gut is saying no, you are not ready. Go with your gut.
2007-01-03 06:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u have 3 guys u aint ready girl but the millitary guy sounds good
2007-01-03 06:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by well thts it...... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your not ready to settle down yet.
2007-01-03 06:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd pick the one that was in another state because he doesnt have anything to tie him down like kids.
2007-01-03 06:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♥PopLock&DropIt♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pick me I have been meaning to turn lesbian for a while now
2007-01-03 06:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋