and i think i may just be making them up, cause at the same time i am scared to death to loose him and somtimes feel like I am not good enough for him. He really is a GREAT person...is it possible I am just trying to bring him down to what I believe to be my level?
2007-01-03 05:56:30 · 14 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES. You think he is too good to be true, so, subconsciously you are trying to sabotage the relationship or make him out to be less wonderful than he really is.
2007-01-03 06:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have more self-confidence, girl! There are many great men out in the world that you don't have to be "scared to death" to lose one of them! Start with having confidence in your own self before thinking of judging others.
And on that note, you really shouldn't be judging others or keeping score of other people's faults. NO one is perfect. And you shouldn't expect them to be! If there are goals, values, or life styles that don't mesh between you two, then it probably won't work out. But you can't base your relationship on how many flaws the other person has. If you can't handle the type of flaw, then you need to make a strong, smart decision if you can live with that flaw for the rest of your life.
Don't try to change people. You can only change yourself.
2007-01-03 14:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by CH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be trying to justify in finding some kind of fault in him just in case you did lose him one day. Think of it like this..... Out of all the women in the world he chose you to be with and to love. Not that you should feel privileged but to feel you yourself are awesome in his eyes and heart. I felt the same way about my last b/f and I saw in my eyes nothing but perfection when I was with him. I was so madly in love that I could not find a thing wrong with him. In reality I tried to find fault in him because "NO ONE IS PERFECT" and because I needed to have something to tell myself if we broke up that he wasn't all that because of a fault or faults that I could honestly find in him. Believe me he did have faults just like myself but being so in love with someone we over look things by living in a fantasy world. Don't try to find faults just enjoy being in love with him and savor ever happy moment you can with that person. True love is hard to find sometimes. Believe me "IF" you did ever loose him you will find the faults you were looking for you were just to blind in love to find them at the time.
2007-01-03 14:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about little flaws. You'll never find some one whose perfect in every way, but you can come pretty damned close.
It seems to me the root of the problem is that he makes you feel inadequate, which seems to say to me you lack confidence in yourself. I suggest working on yourself...your mind and body, and take a different view of yourself. Stop worrying so much about how you stack up to others, and start worrying about how you stack up to yourself. Always strive for self-improvement. I'm sure he doesn't view you the same way you do...
2007-01-03 14:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by Elminster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have low self esteem and need some therapy. Being scared to death and not feeling good enough, and considering yourself beneath other people isn't healthy. Seek help- you can't have a healthy relationship if you're unhealthy.
2007-01-03 13:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep finding faults, maybe you're just not in love with him. He might be a great guy, willing to offer you the world but maybe he's just not the one for you. Do you compare him to anyone else when you think about his "faults"?
2007-01-03 14:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's heels (heals means to make well) and lose (loose means not tight).
Sounds like for some reason you are trying to sabatoge the relationship...do you have committment issues you don't like to admit?
2007-01-03 14:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of faults?
He has bad nose hair?
or
He keeps drinking and crashing your car?
2007-01-03 14:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by jz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably are making excuses to stay together not excuses to find faults, I am sure those are real, you just do not want to be alone,
and if you end up marrying him, you will be very unhappy
2007-01-03 13:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do not wait ladyjo. go out and marry him. then he will be the one who shall be finding faults with you.
2007-01-03 14:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by gunner652001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋