A couple years back, we dated. And I dumped her for no reason at all and she was good to me, I was SO STUPID!!! Now, I want to apologize but the only time I see her is at football games (she's a cheerleader and I play football). But, I don't feel "worthy" to talk to her anymore, what should I do???
2007-01-03 05:52:38 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be sincere, Don't call her either, tell her how you feel in person, face to face. If you are sincere in how bad you feel for treating her that way, she will see it. Don't use dumb lines, just speak from your heart and own what you did to her. Let her know that you do not expect her to jump back into your arms, but if she could give you a chance to be her friend and see if there is anything in her heart for you, that is all you are asking her for. Let her know that you were younger and stupid, now that you are past that fitting in with the guys thing, you understand that letting her go might have been one of the biggest mistakes you may have made up to this point in your life. Then tell her that if you could gain only her friendship and nothing more, that you would be so thankful just for that opportunity to know her again. Also, tell her that if she is too hurt to ever consider befriending you in any way that you will respect that choice and not bother her. This gives her all the choices, tells her your intentions, and gives her the respect back that you might have taken from her in the first place. If you do this she will hear you. Good luck and if you get another chance with her, be yourself and don't ever forget how you feel right now, that way you will always place her in your heart no matter what,.
Tracylyn
2007-01-03 06:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, pick up your self esteem! You're not worthy only if you think that. If you feel awkward talking to her in person, call her on the phone or as a last resort, write her a note and apologize. Sometimes, it's easier to say exactly what you mean when you put it in writing instead of trying to fight your emotions when talking in person. If you do apologize, do just that and don't expect her to come running back to you. An apology will clear your conscience and leave you feeling better about yourself and if you two get back together, that will be a bonus!
2007-01-03 06:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you break it off and not date her any longer would be my question there might have been opposing personalities,generally a person will have if nothing else an underlying reason not even recognizing it i am not sure about you but use to always think something is greener on the other side of the fence only to realise that what i had was a rose w/o thorns,but if you think the girl is it for you be direct, sweetly go to her and ask if you could chat with her that you would like to apologize for what you had done could you both start over
2007-01-03 06:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel worthy to even speak to her is your self-esteem low? Sometimes we think it's 'easier' to go back to an old flame, rather than risk asking out someone new. We can also look back with rose tinted glasses and remember it better than it was. If you really want to apologise, you'll find an opportunity to do it. There is usually a good reason an ex is an ex, most usually because you were incompatible.
2007-01-03 05:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if you were a cheerleader and she a football player my answer would be the same that go tell her what you just told us. Better yet, show her your post on yahoo answers and she will understand. Good luck.
2007-01-03 05:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get over yourself. What's stopping you from talking to her? At least you can find out if you have a shot or not. Until you ask, you're just going to sit there brooding and whining like a girl!
FP
2007-01-03 06:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, start by gaining her trust and friend ship. that is the key. then ask her after a few days if she would ever want to get back with you. first make sure that she sees that you know you made a mistake. admitting you were wrong (not that us guys are ever wrong LOL). good luck.
2007-01-03 06:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by dudedawg20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she's done some stupid things in her life. And it being a few years back I'm sure you both have matured. It's better to get it over with, she's probably wondering whats taking you so long. If it was important enough to her to remember it.
2007-01-03 05:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by tyme2wakeup 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send her an honest letter about how
you feel and that you have grown as a person.
Then ask her out.
You've nothing to lose. You will at least
end up with her as a friend. She'll have
respect for your change of heart.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-03 05:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
chalk it up as a loss and look elsewhere--there are plenty of fish in the sea...if you REALLY want her back BAD, apologize. Deeply, sincerely apologize, and tell her how badly you messed up...and hop she forgives and can forget. good luck.
2007-01-03 05:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋