I've gone out with a great guy for the past 5months. We basically sleep over each other's home every night and have informally met various members of the each other's family. Last night he made the statement that he is not my boyfriend. He has shared that he has been in long term relationships that have destroyed him. This morning, he did not kiss me goodbye like usual-- i think he is still mad from last night's conversation. What should I do?
2007-01-03 05:43:18 · 16 answers · asked by sallySC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is just afraid of being hurt but do not let him hurt you. sit down and talk to him and explain how you feel and see if you can reason it out I wish you luck
P.S make sure he is not using you that he do not have a wife some where
2007-01-03 06:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a similar situation however we have been dating a shorter amount of time and I have not yet talked to my guy about the labeling of our relationship. The only thing I can suggest is finding a time to sit down with him and talk. Letting him know your not nor are you a "past" relationship. That is why there in the past they did not work and we are in those to learn form our mistakes to make the next relationship better then the last. Let him know your not one of his ex's your his present and in hope of moving into his future. With all the hills and valley that each relationship has you will be there right next to him working through it all because you want to be and choose to be in a relationship with him. That is why you stand beside him, not in front and not behind you are his equal and are there for him when times are good and when there bad. You are not only his loveer but his best friend. That is what I consider it should be like in a relationship each partner working together as a team. 50/50 to equal 100% of pure bliss no matter what life throws your way. Good luck to you and I do hope he does consider to be your Boyfriend and beyond.
2007-01-03 13:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep him around, he's giving you all he is able to give for now, and you'll have to deal with it.
Same ole scenario, men don't want to have a commitment just in case someone else comes into the pic. That way they won't have to feel guilty about anything. Give him what he wants. The minute you start seeing other guys because u r not his girlfriend im sure he'll see things differently
2007-01-03 13:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know is gonna be hard but you should tell him that you guys are already together he likes it or not(but well he does right cuz if he didnt he wouldnt be with u;)) and tell him that is not ur fault his other relationships went wrong that dont mean that ur gonna be the same as the other ones right?? and he should treat u n label u as his girlfriend, five months is a long time and i would considered that as a serious relationship cuz is already enough i would call that a couple!!
2007-01-03 13:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jussiie Fresita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there before and to tell you thr truth he is giving you the answer you may not want to see it if he has said that he is not your boyfriend and that he has had realtionships before and they have not worked he is telling you there that this is not the in his plans to be a couple so take it from there but remember all the time u spend on him is time wasted that u will never get back
2007-01-03 13:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by cieraf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. So what if he gets mad. You've got to know where you stand. Do you guys have an agreement to not see other people? I'd be bothered by his behavior if I were you. Maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with him if he isn't your boyfriend.
2007-01-03 13:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sally, trust me, he is not wanting to admit to being a couple because it might get back to someone, or ruin his chances with other women....dump the loser now. do not waste time on his sorry self, you will find someone that wants to be with just you, and will be proud of that fact!
2007-01-03 13:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Joyce D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the milk without the cow. No "label" = no commitment so he can leave you whenever without a second thought.
2007-01-03 13:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by helplessromatic2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him and move on to someone who does want the label.
2007-01-03 13:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cannot label that you are going out, then he isnt the guy for you , look for another somebody , and i bet he would be better, and when you do, that guy that you "werent" dating would realize that he would miss you , and be jealous ,. thats what i would do. take my adive or not . your choice.
or may be you can stay with him and eventually he would say that your his gf.
2007-01-03 13:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by cristie_607 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋