I have a two year old ???

Question

my son still like to sleep with me, well he and i usually fall asleep on the couch, and last night when i would move to the other side of the couch he would wake up screeming and would lay beside me and when he would get to sleep then i would try to move and he would wake up again. It is usually not this bad but last night was terraible. He is a mama' s boy. What can i do to make him sleep by him self.

Answer 1

You should have a routine-like dinner, play time for 30 minutes (with you-clean up can wait till he is asleep), then bath time/story. When you are ready for bed, then read one or two little books and into his bed. If he is used to you being there-try a gradual change. The first few nights, lay down on the floor of his room where he can see you and say "it is time to go to bed now-night night" and pretend to go to sleep. He will likely cry and watch you for a bit, then might sit down, and may even lay down. After about 30-45 minutes he should be asleep and you can leave. Try it for a few nights. Then move to laying down near the door. Try that a few nights. Next, just tell him it is bed time and leave the room. Come back in and check on him in 5 min, then 10 min-eventually he will see that it is ok to sleep without you being right there. And he will figure out that even if you aren't in the room you are close by.

Answer 2

It may be tough on both of you but you need to put him in his crib or toddler bed-whichever he has now-and tell him this is where you go night night.Maybe put his favorite blankie or stuffed toy with him for comfort-but you need to be consistent with this every night and he will learn that he can sleep all by himself.The first 3 nights are usually the worst and it gets better from there.If he cries don't be tempted to go lay with him-or he will never learn.You are not being mean by doing this-it is something that must be done or he will still be sleeping with you when he is 8.

Answer 3

Currently he's been trained to associate sleep with your presence. In order to get him to sleep by himself, you need to reprogram him to associate sleep with his own room, his own bed and his own things. I dont know what type of kid you have, but I would suggest a radical change in the bedtime routine...well, I would first suggest starting a bedtime routine, as it sounds like right now you don't have one.

Pick a time that works for your kid - 7:30pm/8pm whatever works. Then 1/2 hour before, create a routine that will tell your child it's time to get ready for bed: We do snack, bath, story. The give him love and hugs, put him in his crib with a comfort toy (Blanket/stuffed animal) and leave the room. Follow the exact same routine every night. It may take few days of him crying but remember, YOU made him need you at night. This is not his doing. If you can't stand it, pull a chair into his room and sit near him but do not interact with him. After a few nights of this, he will eventually relearn how to sleep.

It works.

Answer 4

You are going to have to try and slowly get him in his own bed. You may need to put a bed in the same room as yours for now. That's what worked with mine. Sometimes kids go through anxiety separation too. I would definitely work on it now, or he may be sleeping with you for a long time. Letting him cry for a little while is fine, if he starts sobbing, I never let mine get that bad. Do what works for you. Hang tough, it will get better.

Answer 5

Thats amazing because I never have my two year old son sleep with me - because HE won't. I wish he would cuddle with me but he likes his own bed. He is still a mommy's boy but he likes his own space at night. The one thing he does do call for me in the middle of the night to rock him back to sleep but thats as far as it goes.