Hey, ive never had a girlfriend and im 19 years old. Ive always been a fussy person and when it comes to dating im picky. Now im getting really worried because if i continue to be like this then ill never have a partner and end up alone. Am i different from everybody else??
2007-01-03 05:20:06 · 80 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are only 19...you have your whole life in front of you. Maybe you should not be so fussy, but eventually the lady of your dreams will appear.
2007-01-03 05:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No you are not different. I didn't date anyone until I turned 19 as well. I'm 23 now and have dated quite a few people and all it's been is hell!!! I jumped into relationships without getting to know people. I, like you, am also picky when it comes to people. It isn't the greatest thing to be, but you know what you like and shouldn't settle for less. I've done it before, huge mistake...and I won't make it again. One thing I'm too picky about are appearances, and as we all know, the cuter people are, the bigger A**holes they are! So that's never fun...at least after a while. Some things you might have to lower your standards on and others you don't. A lot of people are this way so no you are no different from anyone else. Like me, you're one of few people that actually admit that we are picky!
2007-01-03 05:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 when I first started dating. I had the same questions you did. I thought I was different.
I know two guys who were 27 before they first started dating.
I was surprised that it is actually more common than I thought.
So no, you're not different from everybody else. While most people probably have dated by the end of their teen years, it's not unheard of for people to start dating later either.
So don't worry. The right girl will come along. Good luck.
2007-01-03 05:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Have you tried going on blind dates or just hang out with a group of friends? Ummm I would say that you are not much different from anyone else. Being picky is not always a bad thing. You want to wait until u find the right girl, right? Don't sweat it. You will meet her. Try to have a good friend hook u up with a nice girl. And be yourself and have fun :)
God Bless and Be Safe :)
2007-01-03 05:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Yeah it's me................ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not. You just know what you want and have taste which is good. your not willing to settle for less and that's a plus. Your only 19 so don't think you will be alone forever, there are lots of people out there just like you they want the real deal with someone special not just an anyone. So hang in there and when that special someone does tickle your fancy you'll know and you'll be more than ready to go get what you have been waiting for.
2007-01-03 05:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be a little different, but you should find some one soon, your time is slipping away. I have a buddy that is 27 and has been on like 2 dates in his whole life and he has never had a GF. It is really really hard for him to even date now because he never learned how when he was your age. I don't think he has even been laid, I would be too embarassed to ask him. Heck I am not even sure he has kissed a girl. The worst part is he's not gay.
2007-01-03 05:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure you can be fussy over dating if you haven't yet.
Yes, you are different. I wouldn't say you are the only one in the world different, just a little different. Some people progress in the dating scene a bit faster than others. Not clear on your situation. Do you have good hygeine? (clean cut hair, shaven face, deoderant, cologne, nice teeth) are you considered good looking? Do you have acne? Are you shorter than the girls? are you mature enough? Are you healthy (not obese)?
If any of these are your setbacks, then maybe you need to be less fussy.
2007-01-03 05:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by an_awsome_woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope....you're fine !!! Trust me. I'm 43 and have only had about three boyfriends my whole life, for the same reasons as you (I'm picky!) I'm old enough to have seen enough marriages fall apart (where people were NOT so picky) to make me glad that I'm the way I am. And actually, now I'm with a really great guy that I would never have been able to meet if I had settled with some goober years ago just to have a boyfriend.
2007-01-03 05:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far I I am concerned you are just you. There is such a stress these days on relationships and premarital relations and sex that it is hard to believe you are normal. You are normal. It really depends on your priorities. I know many people who have not been in a relationship that are well over 20 because there focus is their education and career and that is a priority to them.
If you want to be in a relationship but don't seem to be able to initiate communication then go on line and find out things you can do to make it easier. As far as I am concerned though I think that the fact that you have not been a relationship is a positive thing. It shows that you are not determined to follow the arrows of society pointing to early relationships, divorce and pre marital sex just because you FEEL l like it. You seem to want something worth while and meaning ful and that counts for something. Just my thoughts.
2007-01-03 05:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you date and try to get to know females. As for being picky you should be especially at 19. Girl's may mature faster then men but it still takes 25 to 30 years before they are mature enough to want the same things as you.
I wouldn't fret. If you are still having difficulty in a couple years maybe re-evaluate the types of women you are looking at. But for now who cares. Date and have fun getting know people. When the right girl comes alone you will know it.
2007-01-03 05:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are all different and there are many, many people just like each of us. I mean if you are 1 in a million, that means there are 600 people just like you in China alone.
Don't sweat it. Relax and enjoy life. It's fun to date people - and it is important to begin to learn what people are capable of - but you will probably not meet the perfect person for you first time around - probably not the first 5 times around even (and by that I mean serious relationships, not dates).
If you do not want to be alone, you have to put yourself out here. Be nice to people, be open to them and to learning more about them. Then, if you don't ever find a mate, you will at least have plenty of friends.
Peace!
2007-01-03 05:27:14 · answer #11 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋