i've got this friend who has a boyfriend...she dosen't like him anymore and he still likes her, she tried to break up with him but he just won't go...like no way out of here.....he refused to break up with her.....he just wouldn't go..she even tried flirting with his best friend but he wouldn't feel anything at all.......he just refuses to break up....help me solve her problem please....best friend!!!
2007-01-03 05:10:01 · 63 answers · asked by Jason Kid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs to be honest witth him. Maybe she's not telling him everything or you either. No one wants to look like the bad guy, but you are seeing everything from her point of view. She may just be avoiding the issue and doing things all the wrong way. From his standpoint it could be entirely different. She maybe the one that's avoiding the issue, and not so much him. For all he knows it could be just a very rough patch he's trying to weather to make things right for them. She needs to be honest.
2007-01-03 05:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, by the sounds of if, it doesn't sound like she is being completely serious. Like...REALLY serious, if she is serious about wanting to get rid of him. Flirting with his best friend isn't serious, it's childish.
I see some people have suggested a restraining order - a suggestion that I would also make if it was necessary, but I'm not hearing about any violence here, so don't even bother, the feds wont take you seriously.
All that your friend needs to do is to look this guy dead in the eye and give him three concrete reasons why they are not working, and why the relationship needs to end, period. She will then tell him that as far as she knows, she is now a single woman/girl, despite and regardless of what he wants to think is the case.
He has no hold on her; she is a woman, not a thing. Your friend will not acheive anything if she does not command it seriously.
2007-01-03 05:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by ebonii_cuteee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she should do is in a place where there are lots of other people they know, tell him very loudly "Now that I've dumped you, Do you want me to set you up with (name of some single lady friend of hers), Or do you need to grieve me before you go out again?"
He will either get the message and maybe even take her up on the offer or the embarresment of being dumped in front of all these people he knows will force him to back off. And he wouldn't really be able to come near her in public again if everyone knew she dumped him(she should tell all her friends after about why she dumped him etc..). Failing all of this call the police.
2007-01-03 05:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by ciaragw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this exact situation....a few too many times actually. There really is no easy way to handle this but to just make it happen. Tell your friend that the relationship is over and if he can't accept it then she will have to just avoid and ignore him. I tried being nice, and they stick around. I tried being mean, they still stuck around....I know how hard it can be. On the same token, what makes it harder for me is that I'm so soft hearted. I hate to hurt peoples feelings and at the first sign of hurt, I try to comfort and thats how I get stuck with someone I don't want to be with. But what worked for me was exactly what I told you earlier on. I just said it was over and had to ignore them, avoid seeing them and staying away from places I know they would be for a while. It's harsh, but you can't be in a situation you don't want to be in, it will drive you insane. Just tell her to be respectful when she's doing it so he wouldn't have a reason to retaliate. Hopefully he isn't psycho because I had one of those and had to get the police involved. Just tell her to make sure she really doesn't want to be with him because she doesn't want to end it and ruin something she wasn't completely over!
2007-01-03 05:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't even understand the problem. He can't refuse to break up with her. She broke up with him. She doesn't have to answer his phone calls, let him in her door, speak to him, look at him, and so on and so on and so on. If she continues to do any of these things, then she's part of the problem and not part of the solution. If he gets any mixed signals at all, no wonder he keeps thinking he can drag it out. No means no. If she has said, "We are broke up" she should not say another word, not even "Get out of here, I told you we broke up." Just nothing. Nothing. That will get old much faster than a constant debate about whether or not they are broke up. Anything else is just game playing.
2007-01-03 05:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rvn 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is serious, she needs to demand that he go away and then call the police if he harasses her. Then if he does not stop, file for an order of protection. You have a right not to be forced into a relationship with a person who is obviously a bully and can't take no for an answer. If your friend is not serious about it, she should quit whining and suck it up.
2007-01-03 05:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirting isn't enough. tell her to CHEAT with his best friend. or just go out with someone else, completely and totally shut this guy out he's not worth the effort. if he insists they're still together, she just has to insist they're not. that means not answering or returning his calls refusing to go and see him, not replying to any messages, emails or texts or anything. he's being a cu nt so she's gonna have to be really really harsh with him. basically if you both treat him like complete and total crap he'll eventually get lost. eventually.
enjoy! this could be a lot of fun.
2007-01-03 05:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were your freind i would becareful for 1,brake up with him and make him understand they are finished and if he harrasses her call the cops and get a restraining order.then have her go spend the night somewear else for a few days(with family or freinds)
a restraining order doesn't always work ,but it's a start and stick to it ,don't be broken down and take him back .he'll get the point after a while and move on .
2007-01-03 05:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by chan72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining Order!
2007-01-03 05:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
flirting with his best friend isnt the answer as it could start trouble. providing that she has told him straight and dosent contact him in anyway, then she should go about her own business. tell her 2 keep a diary about different situations that she finds herself in because he wont let her get on with her life. then should she have to take this further (which hopefully she dosent) then she has dates and times of each incident and not just relying on memory. good luck with this but if there are any concerns then please get help!!
2007-01-03 05:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by flubberlubberlubber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋