I have a really good friend whos also been her close friend for a long time. Now he wants to go out with her too,and she doesnt like it because she feels like she cant really talk to him anymore without him saying something about it to her,and it bothers me because my friend doesnt know that I know this and its really awkward talking 2 him,and because my girlfriend is getting really sick of it.....What should we do?
2007-01-03 04:52:43 · 39 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her to tell him hes only a friend of hers, and nothing more. & that she loves you.
2007-01-03 04:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this guy isnt being a friend or respectful to either one of you so wont be to much of a loss from what I can tell, I think when two people are serious and feel they have found a life long partner something minor like this that is becoming a threat on several ways should just be eliminated right away, I mean its causing an issue between you and your girl causing her to disrespect you, well each one is disrespecting the other, lying , forming question of possible cheating and will always kinda be there as long as he is still around which a true friend wouldnt even go there on any level, besides I dont know two many guys especially not mine that would just be quite because I wanted him to when it comes to something like this so I think you should confront him anyways and if she doesnt like it oh well this is your relationship here is she doesnt think thats worth it and doesnt feel you should stand up for yourself and your relationship than maybe she's right and its not worth it, good luck Kim
2007-01-03 05:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't get angry and mad if something between them two accure. Well what i would suggest you do is let him no that you are not comfortable with him talking to your girlfriend the way he does and that as her boyfriend you would feel better if they remain friends and nothing more. Now tell your girlfriend that if he brings up anything about the relationship between the two then kinda of remind him that you have a man an that you aren't intrested in going out with him because that would be cheating. Well if you have anymore questions or questions about this then send me am email. thanks bye
2007-01-03 05:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by ajee s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you and your girl need to talk to your guy friend together and tell him that you don't appreciate his interest in your girl. That you both are aware of what is going on and you want him to stop it.
You need to do this together and face to face, otherwise he won't take it seriously.
If he is a friend he has to respect you and also her wishes. If he does not want to listen to you or continues, then it is time you both ended your friendship with him.
There will be no other way to end this... You must be real, be truthful and up front and confront this before it really gets out of hand.
Friendships are built on trust and respect, if he has neither it is time to move on.
2007-01-03 05:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should use this to your advantage perhaps? You could talk to him about your relationship kind of thing, saying "Oh I think we're going to go on vacation" or "Moving in together feels so right!" and stuff but make sure you talk it over with your girlfriend first.
He sounds like he isn't a really good friend if he'd want to go out with her after you went out with her for 1/2 a year.
2007-01-03 04:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Besch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are both hiding from something, because you're afraid of losing a friend. Well, how good of a friend is he to either one of you if he knows you are dating each other, but wants to move in on the relationship? I wouldn't sit quietly by - speak up, stand up for yourself. There's ways of talking to people that will still allow everyone to remain friends (if that's what you want), just be suttle and say dude we've been dating for 6+months now and it's making us both a little uncomfortable that you want to go out with (insert gf's name). And then let him go with it............to me, if someone was trying to move in on my man and KNEW we had been dating, that person would not be a friend of mine.
Best of luck! Ü
2007-01-03 05:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First "friends" do not go after or want to date your girlfriend. The fact that he is making both of you uncomfortable is a big sign. You say that he does not know that you know he is after her? Why not! You should have stopped that asap. Confront him and tell him to back off. If you are worried about losing the friendship...who cares...?? He is not being a friend to either one of you.
2007-01-03 04:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by steelnpleasure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you really should confront him. Nicely, but in a clear way so he gets it. Tell him (with her there and talking to) that she doesn't like it, and why, do your best to not make him think you guys are really angry because it could start more problems. Explain to him why it makes you upset as well. But also try to understand his point of view too so that things won't hurt your friendship anymore.
2007-01-03 04:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the guy. Let him know how you feel. My x and I were in the same situation. We really loved each other, but one of my friends was doing the same thing. Me and my x were in love with each other and it was driving a wedge in between us. We were together for 19 months and now we aren't together anymore. He tried to make me pick between him and my friend. Don't make her pick between you or anyone else. Have communication with her and the guy and hopefully things will all work out for you!
2007-01-03 04:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to cut him out of your lives.. As hard as that may be he is interfering with your relationship and causing stress and strain on both of you. You don't need that and he doesn't sound like a very good friend if he is trying to be with YOUR girlfriend..
2007-01-03 04:58:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋