Can these Dom. violence charges against my boyfriend be dropped??

Question

Hello, I live with my boyfriend in the state of ohio. Last friday, he went to a local bar and I promised I would meet him there one hour later. When I got there, I noticed that he was talking to a lady at the bar and I just snapped. I walked over and started harassing him, calling him names, and I grabbed his shirt. He then asked for the tab so he could leave and I tried to grab it from him and then finally suceeded. When I saw a beer on there that he never drinks, I slapped him as hard as I could, and then without warning he punched me on the cheek. I was stunned and then he proceded to leave the place. Some guys started walking out behind him and I followed, the next thing I know the cops are called. My boyfriend walked home. They interviewed me for awhile, and then went to our house to arrest him. When the cops got there they didnt want to arrest him because he had a red hand mark on his face. But by law, they had to. This is now a huge mess, I can can truthfully say that hes never

hit me before. Will the court see this and drop the charges??? Because this is rediculous!

we have been together for 2 years now, and have hit a rough patch recently: his ex wife making false accusations, a foreclosure, I had a miscarriage, we are just stressed right now and dont want this to go any further!

Answer 1

you both should have been arrested. and no, the charges will not be dropped. both of you need to follow whatever the court orders, such as anger management classes and restraining orders. if you do not comply, one or both of you can end up in jail.

Answer 2

Well, technically you couldn't even drop the charges because once the police are involved, the state now prosicutes him. And it could be a possiblity that if you don't testify, you will be thrown in jail.

The good news is that if you go to court and tell them that it was just a miss understanding, they will more than likely place the whole incident on STET. Meaning that no charges are disposed, you two just have to stop fighting eachother for a certain amount of time. If the police are called again for the same charge, then you will be in trouble. Also, they may not take it as serious because he was hit as well. It's not like you were targeted or anything. But he's an *** for buying a girl a drink. But at the same time, you guys shouldn't be fighting. All you two have in the end is eachother. Stick together babe!

Answer 3

Most states....I am in Indiana and I know for a fact in Indiana...there are domestic violence laws and depending on the state of Ohio most likely they will pick up the charges on him (the state will). It doesn't matter if you want them dropped or not. I have been through this, the courts will contact you for your opinion on what his charges should be and they will take your opinions into consideration when sentencing him, but it is beyond your control now. If he has no criminal record, it will just be a misdemeanor charge and some probation. Possibly it will be dropped from his record if completed successfully. This type of situation never gets better. It seems you may have some control issues......I DID also nothing to be ashamed of, just fix it. I ended up with a battery charge on my ex husband (yes I'm a woman.) and it all started 8 years ago with an incident about just like what you had. It doesn't get better. Move on...you will find yourself and once you do, you will find that person you will worship and he will worship you. Sort out why you are so angry and that will help, find out what your insecurities are...obviously you are not comfortable with yourself otherwise you would not have felt threatened by this other woman he was chatting with. We are humans we make mistakes, but I'm telling you now I have already been down the path you are on, and its best to take another path now. Best of luck to you. Jen

Answer 4

I don't know the full details about Ohio law, but it soundslike a Zero Tolerance state(Which is why the arrested him regardless of what you said and the mark) like Florida. If that's the case the State will press charges if you don't so if you really want these charges dropped the best thing you can do would probably be to testifiy on his behalf when it goes to court. But you should really consult an attorney before you do anything.

Answer 5

It doesnt sound like a very good time in your life, im sorry that all that happened to you but that is NOT an excuse for any form of violence. You need to spend time apart from him. As far as the violence charges, they will likely be dropped but this will DEFINATLY not make your relationship with him better... at ALL. Time apart is probably a good thing for you right now. Figure out what you Really want and it will come just work on it.

Answer 6

They probably won't drop the charges. Cops don't appreciate wasting their time to go to an incident and then having to show up for court to see the charges dropped. If you can get in touch with the arresting officer you might be able to talk him into reducing the charge to something that won't look so bad on his record.... simple assault or something. Unfortunately, this is all your fault. A judge may understand everything you are going through and be lenient as gfar as punishment goes, but in most states, SOMEBODY has to go to jail in a domestic dispute and it is usually the man. Think twice before you smack somebody again.

Answer 7

You can drop the charges by signing an affadavit of non prosectuion, but the state can easily pick up the charges. It depends whether he has any past criminal records.. But why would you want to drop the charges without thinking it through a little more. A real man would not have hit you back.

Answer 8

Both of you are not compatible. I think that is obvious to everyone reading your story. I think you can drop those charges but regardless of what happens, you two should leave each other. Hitting him is wrong. Him hitting you is wrong. You aggravated the situation. The future seems bleak for you both. Once you hit someone like that , you can expect to be hit back. Is this what you want? I don't think you are the type that can let go, so i hope he can come to his senses and leave you.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Because of OJ Simpson, every state has adopted a no tolerance policy about domestic violence. The state charged your boyfriend it may get dismissed when he goes to court, but probably he will have to attend anger management classes. From the sounds of things, you need to go as well.

Answer 11

Go to the police and see if you can drop the charges. If they say no, testify on his behalf.

You also should break the hell up with him and not date until you're mature enough not to hit people.

People like you screw things up for women who are actually abused. You instigate the fight, and then the system wastes resources "protecting" you that could be taking care of an actual victim! Some truly abused woman is going to have to wait for justice while your stupidity clogs up the system.

One of you supportive people, PLEASE explain to me why it's okay for her to slap a male but the reverse is bad? Battery is battery. Isn't that what equal rights is all about?