Flirt with a girl who you are very close with but is dating someone else? I mean her and the guy she is dating have gone out for a year now but arent really a happy go lucky couple... Which is why i dont understand whhy they are dating... but the past few days she was telling me how she still has stuf i gave her when i liked her and she was reading letters to me that i wrote and stuff.... not to mention she said she would of dated me in a heartbeat if i asked a long time ago... would it be wrong to flirt back with her if it seems she is trying to stir something up?
2007-01-03 04:05:18 · 41 answers · asked by David E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have known this girl for a few years now and she doesnt have a past of sleezing around with guys so i dont think she would do the same thing to me, and im not flirting with her, im just asking would it be wrong to flirt back since this guy already hates me already *infact he hates all her guy friends* but idk
2007-01-03 04:37:45 · update #1
Flirt!! You both are not married.
M
2007-01-03 04:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's wrong to flirt with someone in a relationship... even if you don't understand their relationship or you think it's unhealthy. It's still in the same category as cheating, and just as you wouldn't want anyone cheating on you or breaking up your relationship, you shouldn't help/tempt anyone else to cheat.
What you SHOULD do is make your intentions clear to her, and then leave it alone. Tell her you still care for her and would ask her out in a heartbeat if she weren't seeing someone else. But you respect her decision and don't want to interfere with her relationship, so if she doesn't feel the same then you won't muddy the waters by flirting with her anymore. (then throw in some good mushy stuff about how much you admire her.)
Then she will know where you stand, and this gives her the catalyst to either 1) dump her guy and date you, or 2) stay with her guy and stop sending you mixed signals.
good luck!
2007-01-03 04:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have written I understand that it is she who is flirting by bringing in the past and then going along with another man. In that case there is no harm in flirting back with her provided you do not intend to rob her from someone else. Since she could not get along well with you earlier and now with this person, I think you should only stick to flirting and do not build a relationship. She is not worth it.
2007-01-03 04:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point of flirting with a girl who has a boyfriend, won't dump him, doesn't appear happy with him and flirts with another guy for a thrill? It's a dead end. If she wants to stir something up, she should break up with her boyfriend first.
2007-01-03 04:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well be careful in what ever you decide to do. If she is with someone else but flirting with you then I would say your treading in dangerous waters. If she has a man but wants to be with you, how do you know if she dumps that guy for you that she wont do it to you with someone else. It just sound like she is liking the attention from you that she may not be getting from her man. Two choices here proceed with caution... or just back off she is taken you know.
2007-01-03 04:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should play it cool until they break up. You want to know she's willing to take the risk of being alone to be with you, not that she is waiting to end the current relationship until she knows you will be there for her. She may like you, it sounds like she does, but don't jump on it yet. Patience will do you a lot of good in this situation, and as long as you just keep being yourself her feelings will not change. Good luck.
2007-01-03 04:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is fun, but in this situation it's wrong. You girlfriend is going to feel terrible knowing that your flirting with another girl. To her, it'll make it seem like you don't care as much about her. You and I don't want anyone to get hurt.
2007-01-03 04:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by funfriend2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - how would you feel if you were the other guy? You need to tell her that you don't feel right flirting back and forth and that she'll need to make a decision on who she wants to date. That way if she chooses you, you'll be happy. If not, you can move on with your life. Neither one of you is happy it seems to me, so what have you got to lose.
2007-01-03 04:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by capnemo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well just tell her how you feel about her...most girls like that...and also say you would have aked her out but you were shy or something like that~i wouldnt flirt back tho because she does have a boyfriend and if she likes you more then him then she would dump him for you!!!
2007-01-03 04:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by little_attractive_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please tell her how you feel, it's obvious she cares deeply for you, and she's probably praying that you will take the hints she has been giving you.
Just go for it, follow your heart, life is far too short to spend it being afraid. Just imagine ye could be perfect together and if in the unlikely chance (very unlikely) she doesnt feel the same at least you wont have loads of 'what if's' in your head at least you will have tried.
But i really think you should just go for it. Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-03 04:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Delete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ehlert99 - You are a perfect example for the saying "its not you I don't trust it's other people"....
When I tell my partner the above phrase, it's because I know that there are people like you walking around, who feel perfectly happy flirting with girls, EVEN THOUGH you know "she" is in a relationship with someone else....
Stop trying to mess around with girls already in relationships, it will make YOUR life so much easier ! ;) .....ESPECIALLY when the guy comes after you!
2007-01-03 04:32:52 · answer #11 · answered by GuessWho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋