Why is it that my friends all have no jobs (or bad job), live at home with parents, drink and smoke daily, no education or motivation, dirty, but all of them have girl friends.
I am 25, own a house, have a great job, light drinker, clean shaven, great shape, not ugly, good personality and the only girls I meet have emotional probelms...what am I doing wrong or am I looking in the wrong places, mostly bars and parties.......
2007-01-03 04:03:51 · 32 answers · asked by mickeys12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO I AM NOT A HOMO
2007-01-03 04:27:57 · update #1
A lot of women are attracted to "bad guy" at first, but eventually realize that a stable man is what they really need. Bars and parties are good places to meet women, but it may not be the best place to find your soulmate. Just keep at it...
2007-01-03 04:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends have different priorities which have clearly included girlfiriends.
OK, you've got a good job and may be thinking now about looking for a girlfriend, but it's a bit late in the day and the market has been well picked over. And let's face it, your skills in that department probably aren't great. You're also looking in the wrong sort of place for the sort of girl you're wanting. You may also not be exactly what the girls you're meeting would consider a number one choice.
What about the girls at work?
And are you being too selective? You don't need to dismiss a girl as a possibility just because she has a bit of moustache or is flat-chested or whatever.
2007-01-03 04:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're asking yourself all the wrong questions. First thing first... you should stop comparing yourself and judging others. Besides, this is the life you chose. Your friends' lives are their own.
Another thing you shouldn't jump into... stereotyping. I mean look how much we all have put ourvselves into believing that women would rather hook up with 'bad' boys or those who aren't motivated to succeed. Stop seeing things that way. Those are not the reasons. Ok?
Everyone has different preferences when it comes to dating. You can complain all you want.... but understand that you have judged yourself positively and everyone else you know negatively. You say the girls have emotional problems. You say your guy friends don't hold a college degree or have a bad job (but they still have a job). There you go about yourself... comparing all the negative aspects you can about them.
For some reasons you are angry at yourself and life in general. That isn't going to help you at all. I suggest you stop telling yourself that you fit all the standards that society tells you what women actually like. It sounds to me that you have been hooked up with all the stuff in men's fitness and mags. You may have a good job... you're probably not ugly and probably not that good looking... but whatever you do... get out of there and just start talking with women...
and whatever you do..
expect nothing..
but take risks.
I made a fool out of myself for talking to two women without caring a thing in the world. I got their contact number and now we're friends. However, one admit she was physically attracted to me but we kept our limits... because she was in a relationship.
So sad... so bad.
2007-01-03 05:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with just about everyone else. You're looking in all the wrong places. I don't think you're looking for the type you girl you're going to find in a bar or nightclub. Try the internet. There are quite a few sites where you can test the waters. Believe it or not, there are a few good people out there, and after some trial and error you might just get lucky and come across someone who's right for you.
2007-01-03 06:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there is nothing wrong with you ..You are even very good the way you are.I have been there too ...!! The point is that theses guys without motivation and no education who live at their parents HAVE TIME to go in the street to pick up whatever childish women there are ...so they will always appear as if they have a girlfriend , like them ..
but, in your case, you have a job, educated and a busy guy ...you don't have time like those bastards ..and your women standard are higher than average ..I am sure, you would like to meet a woman of your standing who a great job and a good future ...and also with a personality that can fit your lifestyle ...I don't think you are the kind of guy who will be going on the street to pick up womwn ...don't worry ..The kind of women for you is difficult to find but you will it , go to the places, where you know, you will meet those women of your standards ...Probably, as you said you might have been looking in the wrong places ...
Hope that helps..
Good luck !!!
2007-01-03 04:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by bobby s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live in a large urban area look into formal, matchmaking services. There are some in Seattle, SF, LA, and other cities.
These services are all face-to-face and work only with the more upscale professionals.
My cousin met her husband, an attorney through a matchmaking service in the LA area. She's an RN and professional session musician.
If you are a practicing member of your religion, your church or synogogue may have an active singles group for fellow faith members.
Go back to school for career improvement classes. You might meet some like-minded women there.
There are all sorts of alternatives to the gross bar scene.
Broaden your horizons.
2007-01-03 04:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
South America
2016-05-22 23:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because these girls are looking for excitement, and you have settled down. Go to some place nice to find you a girl. The women who hang at bars are using want Fun!.
Sorry, but you are too clean, get a little dirty and you will have the girl crawling all over you.
2007-01-03 05:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by theformermrs.king 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are these "girls" your friends are dating and are they in these girls drinkers, smokers, uneducated, unmotivated and dirty? Sounds like that's not the kind of girl you're looking for. Most girls like the bad boys which leaves the nice ones on the sidewalk. Try dating older women. Most of them are established, know what they want, have jobs and don't have time for childish games.
2007-01-03 04:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by declaude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible you are looking in the wrong places (bars & clubs) I'm sure you've heard the expression "freaks come out at night". It's possible to meet nice people almost anywhere (in line at the bank, grocery store, gas station) you just have to be looking at the right time.
Besos
Khet
2007-01-03 04:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋