i am already suffering from sevre depression. but im taking care of that by planning out a workout program (something i love doing and makes me happy generally). Have a bad past of gf leavin me outa the blue (gf of 1 year). This new girl i met says she likes me, but she dsnt trust guys (she says both things all the time). Calls me a lot, and txts me as well. Ive told her im crazy about her, but she just reacts with an "aww". shes very unresponsive, but says shes like that cos she realy dsnt trust guys (even tho she has many guy friends!!). It really bothers me, i dont know where shes going with this? depresses me even more she has guy friends and pics of them with her as a couple (pose as a couple i mean). i cant think striaght, i feel crap to even think this way. Shes just too pretty. i just dont know how to cope anymore. this is just makin my depression worse, ive tried to tell her all this, but she dsnt seem to react.
2007-01-03 03:46:30 · 7 answers · asked by WPReviews 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The Best thing you can do for yourself is Take care.You need to engage yourself in all those activities that fascinate you and will make you forget about love hunting and dating.Let all your focus be on ''You''.
I was devastated several months ago when my ex cheated on me.He was my priority one.I was way too dependant on him emotionally.He was my world and i put him above everything.He figured my weakness and made me feel worthless.
During my healing process i realised i should not waste my time,energy and emotions on a person who isnt worth.If i had spent all that on myself i would be better off and practised the art of loving myself.Trust me,i am truely feeling better and peaceful now.
I suggest you to focus only on you.Make a list of things or activities that fascinate you and do it - a lot.This will also boost your self esteem and you will feel plenty of love within.
Dont waste your precious time and energy on a person who doesnt trust guys.Dont even bother.You will find someone special who can give you all that care and attention you desire.
I wish you heal soon.
Happy New Year-2007.
2007-01-03 04:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all calm down, give yourself some credit, i think it's great your setting up a workout program which will boost your endorphans which is happy chemicals, when you feel blue working out is the best medicine, second of all, seems you and this girl have a lot more in common than you think, seems she is alot like you, scared, had a bad past and shes feeling exactley like you, confused, scared, I'm sure she does like you and be glad shes being honest and telling you she doesnt' trust guys, you tell her you like her and just says aww because she's scared, confused about what to do, doesn't wanna get hurt again, just be a friend to her and show her your not like those other guys and maybe this will turn into a beautiful romance, maybe this is the girl you've been waiting for, you both don't wanna get hurt, it's hard for both of you to trust, yes, she has guyfriends and pictures, thats something totally different you can have lots of guyfriends and not trust them, take it slow and don't rush into things so you don't get hurt again...God bless
2007-01-03 03:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was hurt in the past. Maybe she hasn't let those feelings go away yet. Try really talking to her. Serious pillow talk. Then tell her how she feels, it's not fair to you at all. If she keeps giving hints tell her that she is. But if she isn't going to try and make anything out of the two of you then stay on a friends-to-friends basis. Toying with emotions isn't cool at all. And it sounds like you really don't need it. So tell her the deal and see what happens. All you can do really, is to talk. Outcomes could be good or bad but you deserve someone who would appreciate you.
2007-01-03 03:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by ☺мοηѕŁα 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not getting anything good out of the relationship. You need to concentrate on the good things in life and get your depression under control. Go work out, see a DR. Get on meds do what it takes for you to live a happy and healthy life. She needs to go on and get help with her trust issues. Don't let her drag you down. Good luck
2007-01-03 03:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need is a real adult relationship. unfortunately it appears that this girl has many of her own issues to deal with and that is not conducive to either of you having an emotionally healthy relationship with each other.
take a break from the relationship scene. get your own life back on track. after all, no one can make you happy if you don't even like yourself. define what exactly you want out of a relationship, the kind of support you need for your depression, and what you are and are not willing to compromise. if, after all that, she appears to meet all your requirements, then fine. but i have a feeling that she is frankly incapable of meeting the emotional needs you have.
2007-01-03 03:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you're really dealing with depression, you need to see a professional. Take it from a guy that deals everyday with major depression. You need to get the help. Relationships don't help, I have two ex-wives to prove that. Without help we sometimes turn to drugs and alcohol for self medication to make us feel better, I have 5 DUI's to prove that!! I'm not well yet, but I have a doctor I have trust in, I give her credit for me not shooting myself yet.I'm at mck_dw@yahoo.com if you want to talk.. Please do..
2007-01-03 05:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by DWM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..im sorry u feel this way...
but we girls..dont know how 2 react..when we have a crush on some1
she could be like that
maybe bc she likes u alot..she needs time 2 get 2 know u better...so dont feel depressed..its normal and fine if a girl acts like this..
bc we girls are complicated..lol
2007-01-03 03:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋