2007-01-03 03:45:51 · 23 answers · asked by Linda 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am afraid that God did not pronounce Adam and Eve as husband and wife in a church or a courthouse.
The wedding ceremony that we all know and love is a civil ceremony approved by the state by an issuance of a license, which you return after the vows are said and signed by a duly authorized agent of the state or the church.
The state does not control what vows you make, but that you make them in front of a judge or a pastor or a priests. It does not matter to them.
The vows that I took with my wife a little over three years ago were taken in a private ceremony in a floral garden on the ranch of a friend, and we were pronounced man and wife by a judge that was another friend of ours.
These were vows that I wrote and my bride agreed upon.
The place does not matter.
grace2u
2007-01-03 04:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Theophilus 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Whatever floats your boat. If you want a wedding with all your friends and family, have a church wedding; or if you believe your marriage is a convenant between you, your wife, and God. Having a court house wedding does not necessarily mean the above is not true and is cheaper and simpler. It depends on preference and what you feel is right, in this case.
2007-01-03 05:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by ntcplanters 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That answer totally depends on the individual. I would imagine that a really religious person would prefer the church wedding. A nonreligious person would probably rather another setting. I got married in Barbados on a beach, so it doesn't have to be a choice just between courthouse and church, you can get married in the setting of your choice. Ultimately, where you marry is not so important as what is in your heart and how you feel about the person you are marrying.
2007-01-03 03:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Zen Pirate 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are an active member of a church community, it is nice to be married within that community. We call it "fellowship". If not, then it is really a matter of taste. Although one advantage of a church wedding - or at least having a pastor doing the wedding, - if he is worth his salt, he will require a series of meetings with the two of you before the wedding to help prepare for your relationship.
When unknbown people ask me to marry them, I always ask them why they chose me instead of the courthouse. Then I explain to them that if they want me to marry them as a "pastor", I intend to "pastor" them, at least until the wedding, and, if they want, afterward too. I explain to them that I cannot "bless" a marriage any more than a justice of the peace can. They will get no magic force of marriage through my performing the wedding. But they will have my personal involvement, advice, accompaniment. So it really depends on what they want. I refuse to compete with a justice of the peace, to do what he can do just as well!
2007-01-03 03:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Statistics have proven that church weddings are slightly more likely to last compared to court house/registry weddings.
2007-01-03 03:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is a matter of personal chilce. My second wife and I choose a courthouse with a judge because I was divorced and most preachers would not perform it. I liked it better anyway.
After 14 years of marriage my mother in law still saya we are not relly maried because we did not marry in a church with a preacher.
2007-01-03 04:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say a church, you can invite more people and you won't offend your grandmother either. Its a win-win situation. Of course, I believe that a beach, a park, somewhere outdoors is a lot better. That way the god and goddess can truly bless your union.
2007-01-03 06:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by James G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's better to be married in church because you are making sure to include God in your marriage. Not that getting married in a courthouse means you're not going to, it's just a better start. Plus, on the superficial side, it's prettier, you can have more guests, and the ceremony is more fun!
2007-01-03 05:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by mommyismyname 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
church wedding
2007-01-03 03:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by shambuca 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't see one as "better" than the other, though I won't be married in a church. I hope to be married outside - preferably in a park or by a lake.
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2007-01-03 03:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋