Okay I am getting married in June of '08. I don't have a relationship to my father, my mother is deceased, and there are no other male (or female) influences in my life who i think would have the right to give me away besides my son who will be 11 when we get married. I think he should be the one to give me away. When i mentioned this to my fiance he was like I thought he would be the ring bearer. One i think ring bearer is "cuter" when it is a younger kid. My friends son is 1 now but will be 3 by the time we get married. Do you think that is too young? I think it is more important for my son to give me away. Also, i haven't even been to a wedding since i was like 12 so does the person who gives the bride away normally walk the bride down the aisle or does she walk alone?
2007-01-03 03:43:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Definitely go with your son, and I'm sure he'd be quite proud to walk his mom down the aisle on such a special day! I think three is fine. If he gets scared, and won't walk, u can have his mom or someone else escort him. Our ring bearer was 18 mos, and his mom walked him down, and it was so adorable in his lil tux! I've also seen a younger ring bearer wheeled down in a satin and lace covered stroller by his older sister, who was about 8. Just remember, it's YOUR day, so make it what you want it to be! Congratulations and good luck! :)
2007-01-03 03:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by prplluva 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off it's your wedding too. If you want your friend's son to be the ring bearer than that's what he should be. Your son is too old to be the ring bearer. Now as for him giving you away. There is nothing wrong with that. It is a person in your family that is tranferring the responsibility of taking care of you to your husband. It is no problem having your son walk you down the aisle As far as the if he should walk you down the aisle or if you should walk down by yourself, is totally up to you. You can walk down alone and have the preacher ask who gives this women away, and your son can say I do.
2007-01-03 05:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by kaytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR wedding, so you two can do whatever you want to do - there's no right or wrong if it makes you happy.
The bride can walk alone or be escorted by the person(s) she feels closest too, family-wise (usually someone who had an influence in raising her).
The ring bearer is usually a child (or any age or sex, but usually a young boy) or a trained pet; or the best man and maid of honor be in charge of the rings, which is probably the best option in your case.
If you want your son to walk you down the aisle, that's totally appropriate - just tell you fiance it's important to you that a family member escort you.
Your friend's son is probably a little too young to be entrusted with the task, unless he turns out to be a very mature and alert 3-yr-old. I'd suggest letting the best man and maid of honor hold the rings.
If you want to involve your son more in the ceremony, it might be nice for you and your fiance to present him with a bracelet or necklace when you exchange your rings, as a symbol that you are all one family and your fiance is taking on the role of father as well as husband. I have seen this done before and it's very touching.
congratulations! and good luck! and enjoy!
2007-01-03 04:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the bride, you're free to walk down the aisle alone, or has someone (anyone you wish) walk you down. I was at one outdoor wedding where the bride walked part of the way herself, then met the groom at the end or the aisle and they walked up together.
And 11 would generally be a bit too old for a ring bearer position - the books usually suggest that ring bearers and flower girls be between 4 and 8 (although they can be much younger if you think it will work and the child will cooperate).
I'm sure it would make your son feel very grown up and like he was playing an important part in the ceremony if he gave you away, though. It would be lovely sybolism for this new phase as a family.
As an aside: I will be getting married in October, and my fiance wants to walk down the aisle with his nephew, who will be almost 4. They may go before the bridesmaids, or we may have the bridesmaids go first, then the two of them, then me. So, I say whatever works for you, go for it!
2007-01-03 04:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the idea of your son walking you down the aisle to give you away is great!
As for a ring bearer, if he is well behaved the 3 year old can do it.
(I'm having a flower girl that will be 14, so no age is too old or young, this is YOUR wedding have who you want in the positions!)
2007-01-03 04:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right about the ring bearer being young...an 11 year old is far to old for that duty. Although it would be a great honor for him to walk his mother down the aisle, it isn't proper because, chances are, he won't fully understand what is going on.
It is great that you want to involve him in the ceremony, but think about making him a junior groomsman...that way he can spend the day getting ready with his stepfather and their bond can formally begin. Also, you could present him with a gift after the ceremony is done but before you are pronounced husband and wife...that way the 3 of you can walk down the aisle as a family.
If you don't have anyone you feel comfortable with to walk you down the aisle, there is no rule that says you can't walk by yourself...it is your day and you have every right to get the spotlight for your big walk.
2007-01-04 14:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son should walk you down the aisle. If your son isn't walking you down the aisle, he should be a groomsman.
You don't really need a ring bearer in the wedding (3 is about the right age, but it often depends on if he is capable enough to understand). If your son isn't walking you down the aisle, he should be a groomsman, if not the best man. He should be by your side to show that not only are you getting married, but that you are joining as one family. I hope your fiance places as much importance in your son's happiness and involvement as you do.
You could also walk alone or even walk down the aisle with your groom.
2007-01-03 08:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you have your son to walk you down the aisle. you are right to have a younger ring bearer. I have never seen a ring bearer over 5, so 3 seems suitable.
the person who gives the bride away walks her all the way down the aisle up to the alter.
congrats and good luck!
2007-01-03 05:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, your son should be the one to give you away. Yes, they usually walk down the aisle with you. Ring bearer are usually for younger children. You might have a few problems with a three year old, but that isn't too young. I have seen them run down the aisle or cry. As long as you know these things could happen and accept that.
2007-01-03 03:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by Brian and Kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance has to remember that he is not only marrying you but he is also marrying your son. It is extremely appropriate for your son to walk you down the aisle and give you awat (and also stand witness when you exchange vows.)
3 years old would be fine for a ring bearer (my nephew is 3 and will be my ring bearer in my wedding). However, just remember with 3 years olds - things may not always go as planned.
2007-01-03 03:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by neesy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋