months ago. He did not accept my work to hang in his gallery, but we did strike up a regular email correspondence, and became pen pal friends. At one point, we discussed meeting in person and perhaps visiting a museum, or something like that. I never gave him my phone number, but this morning he called me (saying he got my # from the phone book) and said he is in town today. Then he boldly asked me if I'd like to go to dinner with him tonight. This took me by surprise, since I am straight, and I assumed he was, too. My question is, is this a gay man trying to date me? I didn't want to mislead him into thinking I was gay. All I wanted was to be friends. Maybe I'm dense, but I know it's customary for two male business colleagues to have lunch--but dinner? What's going on here? Is asking someone you just want to be friends with to dinner normal?
2007-01-03 03:41:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Avoid at all costs.
2007-01-03 03:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably just busy at lunch but would like to meet you in person just to know who he's talking with. Don't sweat it, it'll all work its self out. But if he does make any obvious move on you then just calmly tell him that you aren't gay, but it has to be obvious 'cause if it isn't then you ruined a good friendship by calling him gay! hahaha people take such offence these days to stuff like that, wonder why! anyhow, Good luck! :)
2007-01-03 11:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should freak about it. Just go out with him... see what happens. If he starts getting frisky, then be open and let him know that you just want to be friends. It's simple. Guys go out to lunch all the time that aren't gay ;)
2007-01-03 11:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by TalkingTomato 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds perfectly normal to me. You'll be in a public place, right? What's the worst that can happen?
2007-01-03 11:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him.................. ask him, "is this a date". If he says 'yes', then politely decline dinner and explain to him as you have to us! He won't be insulted. If he IS gay, however, hopefully you can still remain friends with him.
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2007-01-03 11:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply explain to him how you feel if he hits on you.
2007-01-03 11:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jessy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go and have fun...if it gets uncomfortable then you'll know.
2007-01-03 11:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by marie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋