Do crushes ever develop into real relationships?

Question

Seems I've always had a crush on some man at one time or another. But they've never turned into real relationships. I just wind up hurt.

Answer 1

Well, I can definitely feel you on that. Remember that crushes aren't always based on what someone is really like, sometimes they are based on our own impression, perception, or wants from that person. Crushes can become the real deal, but not often.

Answer 2

Hey girl,

I would love to tell you that most crushes do. But in reality, if you think about it a crush is something you develop for someone when you are infatuated by something about them. Their smile might captivate you, or their voice might comfort you. I spent a year chasing a guy I was crushing on. I wasn't at all sure why I was so infatuated by him, but I wanted him none the less. I do have to say that after much chasing and throwing myself at him, I did win him over. We where together for six months and he proposed. I was flabbergasted, and scared.... but I had finally gotten what I wanted so much. I was amazed with him, and I really felt like I was living a dream. Little did I know, that I had been so infatuated with this person, that when I got a hold of him, I never wanted to let go. The relationship then started a turn for the worst, and before I knew it, I was in an abusive relationship. I kept denying that it was really happening to me, and since I had spent so much time crushing on him, I didn't and couldn't imagine losing him. So I stayed for three years. I have now been divorced for a year, and have found myself in the arms of someone new. I have to say, that this boy that I am with now, I never even thought I would EVER give a chance to. And in no way shape or form did I ever crush on him. But you know, the love we share is more real than anything I've ever felt. I can tell he loves me, and I can tell he needs me in his life. You see, some crushes do turn out for the best in some cases, others you spend so much time infatuated with that person, that when you grab hold of them, you never let go, no matter the circumstances. Sometimes crushes as relationships aren't your best option. Trust me, the guy you are looking for will fall into your lap. Be patient and don't waste so many feelings on guys that aren't giving them back. Just have fun in the moment, and enjoy life. Flirt, laugh and play! Take care girl!

Answer 3

One item is missing from your analysis. You have shown repeated examples of her flirting and the opinions of your friends. You have not clarified if you are really interested in her. You don't have to enter a relationship in which you don't feel the same about the other person. Observe your friends and relatives who have successful courting and relationship practices. This is an excellent time to learn from example. Some guys like an aggressive female while others do not. You have a right to a preference as you have a right to be involved with someone you feel has things and beliefs in common with you. So the essence of this is trying being a friend which means that you two are not exclusive and can date others. Once engaged in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, you are seeing only one another.

Answer 4

Well, crushes at younger ages are a lot easier to form into a relationship than when your older, because when your young you know there not married. But, yes, crushes can form into relationships if you are really attracted to that one special person. But, before you try to get into a relationship, make sure you are sure there not married, engaged, or in another relationship. I wish you best of luck, and God bless you.

Answer 5

Sometimes crushes can turn into relationships. Hang on in there I'm sure that one of your crushes will return the feelings soon so that the two of you can have a love connection. Don't give up on love

Answer 6

Yes! ofcourse the other person has to feel the same way. All you have to is give it a try. I had a cruse on my husban for a year and finally went for it we've been together ever since 6 1/2 years.

Answer 7

Yes they do sometimes, I know this by experience.I once liked this boy for about 4months and he never felt anything for me. But on november 20,2006 I met a boy at school during lunch time,It was called love at first sight,I took 1 day to think.It turned out to be a real relationship because the same day we met he dumped his girlfriend only because he fell in love with me.(I would love to be your friend. E-mail me on [e-mail] name is Hilda Sanes.)To don't get hurt wait for the boy to crush on you and if you think he is right 4 U go for it.!!ENJOY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

just give it time and heart...take katie holmes. When she was a kid she used to havepics of tom cruise on her wall . a definate crush. and now look at them although their age is 0 years apart that little crush has developed into a relationship. they are happily married and had a daughter together

Answer 9

yeah. i think that's how crushes are. because you tend up to be shy and very nervous around the guy you wanted so you cannot possibly get the guy.

another way to get the fear out of you is you try to talk to him. just a normal talk. then maybe you can start from that. if you cannot get the conversation right then do not pursue your goal. it will just make you feel troubled.

Answer 10

Yes, many "crushes" develop into real relationships and marriages.