I'm really confused. I really care for this guy and want him but I know I can't have him. We dated twice before. One of the times he broke up with me after six days. The most recent we dated for a month, and he cheated on me at a drunken party. I don't want to feel the way I do about him but I do. I don't know how to get over him. When I think of how he treated me when we dated, it makes me sad. He was so good to me. He protected me, and cared for me. It was the first time I had a boyfriend like that. How do I get over him? How do I make the pain and the hurt he made me feel go away?
2007-01-03 02:39:47 · 14 answers · asked by ~*Zaidens Mommy*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel your pain from a Man's view point. TIME sounds Corney but it's true. It's the best healer of all. I find hit tong in cheek funny that the thing that hurts the most, as soon as 1 relationship is over we go & try to get in another.u are to good for this dude. Go on with your life. If he comes crawling back, let him crawl. There are a lot of guys out there & they are not all like this guy. To help you thru this time hang out with friends. You will be fine, 1 day at a time. U don't even know that U have the power. I do hope this helps you (there is no easy way when relationships go south) Best of luck. Don't lower yourself to do the same to him, he's not worth any more of your engeries.
2007-01-03 03:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by Blues Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to get motivation in yourself and realize that what you had it will be no more and you find someone better and move on with your life. I am sure you care about this guy but it is obvious that he does not feel the same way about you, especially after all the things he put you through and what he has done to you. If he really wanted you he would have told you how he felt and that he was sorry and that he would like to work it out, He has not done that and so you know what you have to do, you can face the dating scene and do it just be confident and you can get any guy you want.
2007-01-03 02:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only thinking of the good times and the ways he made you feel safe and secure. Remember teh horrible way you felt when he broke up with you and cheated on you. You miss a memory of what he really never was. He is the guy who cheated and broke up with you, that guy who made you feel protected was just some fantasy. You have to decide to get over him first. Force yourself to stop thinking about him everytime your thoughts drift back to him. Everytime you remember a good time put a thought about the hurt he caused into your mind. Time will help with the pain and hurt. Time goes by and you will think of him less and it will bother you less. (as long as you try to do things to take your mind off of him and push thoughts of him away when they creep back.)
Good luck, I am trying to do this now and it is really hard.
2007-01-03 02:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy was not good to you. He did not protect you or care for you. You are remembering things differently. You sound very young and that he was you first boyfriend. Things to remember is that He is a drunk, and a cheater. Time will get rid of the pain. Go out and do something positive for yourself. This is not a guy you stay at home and cry over. Good Luck!
2007-01-03 02:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry your not the only one, i just saw my ex after college and i almost cried he too hurt me by not talking to me for days then asking for forgiveness then 3 days later he told me he didn't feel the same about me on msn!,but when we were together he was so loving and kind. thought i was over him but i guess not. It just takes time or so i have heard, friends are the best though they have been so understanding even when i bore them with my troubles
2007-01-03 02:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad to say, but time is the only real healer. Start seeing others, on a friendly basis, make some new connections, go to some new places, there are other decent dudes out there...
2007-01-03 02:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tikcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curve! Get your girlfriends and go out. This guy sounded pathetic anyway. He probably cared for you because you were giving up something to him. He sounds like a jerk and not worthy of your thoughts, so get over him! Because you are started to sound pathetic.
2007-01-03 02:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by julygirly22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give time for a day all to yourself and go have a shopping spree fix yourself up and flaunt it real well he' ll catch the fact that your over him and if you have guyfriends start hangin with them alot and pick one to hang with the most then when your ex asks you who go with get your guy friend to play along and say hes your bf and eventually if you like that guyfriend he may end up liking you so youll end up with someone better then you had before revenge is a need in your case hun!!!!!:)
2007-01-03 02:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes u!!! He in all probability likes many females!!! it truly is why he hasn't made any particular bypass on you. shop ur relationships wqtered down, till ur waiting 4 marraige. there is two many distinct s.t.d.'s available 2 b fooling around. WHAT sounds like relaxing IS RUSSIAN RULET WITH UR VERY existence!!! the 1st relatively time u have intercourse could desire to be the time that u get contaminated. think of of b 4 u bounce n 2 something!!!!
2016-10-19 10:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by barn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one way to get over somebody is to get somebody else. Another way I got over someone is to hate them (i know thats mean but it worked. I just thought about all the bad things he done until I hated him, and the hate was so strong, it overpowered the love I had for him). Another way to get over him is just to accept the fact that you guys are not meant to be together.
2007-01-03 02:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋