I have tried this once. He cheated on me with his ex... makes me weary of trying again. We are about 1 hour away.... not extremely long distance but we both have hectic schedules and can only see each other about 1 X per week.
2007-01-03 02:28:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not the same guy as the one that cheated!!
2007-01-03 02:28:56 · update #1
well even though you have had bad experiences bahind you don't be to afaid to try it again cause he does deserve a chance but again it depends on the guy you never know what happens when your not there.
2007-01-03 02:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by love strong with no regrets! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most answers you will get will be about how both persons are willing to make it work.It will.
And THAT is the word "willing" because things can be totally different when you are not there.
Even tho its only one hour so its not too bad of a distance. And I agree with one answer above about trying to at least see more than once a week. That what happen in my life and it didn't work because only seeing one day doesn't really tell you about the person you are with. It just a day of catching up on news and sex..lol..
Then you are right back in your own town again.
So if you have done this before then so slowly of how much of your emotions in it cause if this one cheat then its going to hurt even MORE than the first one.
I wish you both good luck and have a good year.
Love and Peace in 2007
2007-01-03 10:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by bottom dollar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One hour away is definitely not long distance, however, it feels like long distance to you because you only see each other once a week.
Can it work?
Well, you said in a previous relationship, your boyfriend cheated on you with his ex. However, I don't think it's fair to judge your present boyfriend by your previous boyfriend's behavior. It's not the physical distance that causes the trouble, but the psychological/emotional distance between you. It's also an issue of trust.
Why not give this guy a chance? Don't you also deserve the chance to have a serious relationship as well?
2007-01-03 10:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I say it depends on what kinda' guy it is. If he is one of those guys who just want sex then no.If it's a guy who actually cares and you can trusr then I say yes.
But after all I think they do work. I myself am in a long distance relationship. I live in Oregon, U.S.A and ma' boy lives in Mexico. It's hard because I miss him so much, but it hasn't been that long. I haven't seen him for about 5 months and yeah I think there should be some visiting going on at some point.
Also many relationships go wrong cuz' many spend almost all their time with their partner and they get bored or annoyed of it and break up. So in some cases a long distance relationship works. It all depends on the people.
2007-01-03 14:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by Chicana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, the odds are against you. Long distance is almost always a bad thing with couples no matter how much you love each other. Besides, if you can't bring out the best in him, and he cheats, it's time to move on or you'll be going through it again. It may not be what you want to hear, but it's probably what you need to hear. You will see what I mean in the future.
2007-01-03 10:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by julygirly22 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
love and respect for the other person will allow it to work in my opinion. truth is, none of my friends have ever had a good experience with a long distance relationship and the long distance relationships i've been in were ok. in my instance no one cheated on each other that i know of, but it simply didn't work out. one time a week will get any relationship pretty frustrated.
2007-01-03 10:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by the_blue_eyed_papi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big hill to climb in the beginning of a relationship. My H and I started out long distance and the first three day weekend that came up we stretched to four. Being together nonstop that weekend we realized we needed to quickly work on shortening the distance. We talked and formed our plan 27 years ago. Good Luck!
2007-01-03 10:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you both want it to work then it can. You have to make sure both parties are mature about the situation and are have good communication. It would help also if you were able to visit often.
2007-01-03 10:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by SassySister 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the military does it all the time when they are deployed for 6 months or more.
2007-01-03 10:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Haven't you heard? 'once beaten, twice shy' you've been there and you know how it hurts so, why do you want to put yourself through this again? Think about this.
2007-01-03 10:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋