....I want to take him back...away from the nasty girl hes with...we were never really dating...but i still want him...and the whole world knows he still likes me..and its all sorta crazey...should i just make a move or wait?
2007-01-03 02:24:07 · 14 answers · asked by So over-used 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
make a move! What do you have to lose? You have to put yourself out there.
2007-01-03 02:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by *RoCKsTaR* mommy of 1!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T EVER GO AFTER ANOTHER PERSON'S MAN!!!
The answer to the ancient riddle of why women flock to attached men is deceptively simple. Some men might think, “It’s because I’ve got a strong sense of confidence when I’ve got a girlfriend.” Nope. Try again. “It’s because women are romantically competitive. They don’t want to see another women happy if they’re not happy.” Yeah, nice try, but still wrong.
The real reason comes down to this one fact: We need to know that the merchandise is not a lemon before we make our purchase.
You see, women are bombarded with come-ons and masculine bullshit every which way we turn every sngle day of our lives from the moment that we begin growing mosquito bites on our chests. As little boys, you guys chase us around, pull our hair, and stick pointy things in our chairs. Guys immaturely torment us in their pursuit of displaying their misguided affections. As teenagers, guys spend the majority of the date time trying to talk us into some deviant act, quilting us into compliance with a load of logical arguments like, “If you don’t, I’ll explode”
Can you really blame a girl for being a tad cautious of the male species?
Women are always looking for security. That’s one of the few stereotypes about my gender that will forever hold up. We’ve been subjected to so many different types of flakey behaviors that we’ve become attuned to sniffing out a good man. Problem in our modern society is that the amount of leisure time that we have to go in search of that good man smell has decreased dramatically. So, we’re taking shortcuts everywhere we can. One of the easiest shortcuts to finding a good man is to find one that has a woman attached to him. The logic here is that if she thinks he’s good, and knowing that she’s just as cautious of men as we are, then the guy must be worthwhile.
We don’t want the guy because he's good looking. We couldn’t care less if he has the confidence of a 200 pound woman wearing a bikini on Jerry Springer. All we see is that he's been test-driven, and someone found him worth the ride. In our nation, consumption and in our human nature to steal, it is the fact that makes taken guys seem most appealing to us.
Now, let me clarify for you that this is NOT the route that we should be taking. I’ve learned form experience that life is too short to go chasing after another women’s man. And face it, if he reciprocates, that whole “good guy” and “security” thing you thought you were getting? Yeah, it’s not become a cosmetic purchase; unable to get your money back after you’ve opened the package. I don’t know about the rest fo you girls, but if I’m not getting my money back, I’d rather it be on a new release than a previously owned.
Moral of the story? Think of another woman’s man like you would her wardrobe; just because it looks good on her, doesn’t mean that it’s going to fit your fat ***.
2007-01-03 10:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by prettyaspnk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice to the nasty girl, if possible. But yes, you can go ahead and make your move. Talk to him alone, though. You wouldn't want to be embarressed if you'r wrong.
2007-01-03 10:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Cattie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah, make your move!!!
But do it as discreetly as you possibly can (we wouldn't want any1 like that mean girl he's with to find out about your plan and ruin it)...believe me, if you waste time pondering ''should i, shouldn't i'' you'll end up quite frustrated if you don't at least TRY and get him back!!!
All the luck 2u!
2007-01-03 10:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sistr P* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you like him then just be there for him but dont try to make a move on his relationship, thats just disrespectful. If he doesnt know then maybe you can find a way to tell him but be respectful of his relationship (if you can!).
2007-01-03 10:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by SassySister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said, you love him even though you claim you weren't really dating. Since you want him and you are also very sure you love him, follow your heart! and make a move.
2007-01-03 10:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump in with both feet! Follow your heart. Even if it don't work, you won't wake up some day and wonder how it might have been.
2007-01-03 10:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Marilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him love he aint worth the hasstle if he dumped you once chances are he'll dump you again....also you sound from your question that you are stalking him...if you go for it however go with caution..
2007-01-03 10:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make your move. He'll thank you for it later.
2007-01-03 10:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by jwkramer54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley. If you get rejected, you'll live. If you don't do anything, you'll also live...but with regret.
2007-01-03 10:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by halenstone2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋