This is a serious issue.....Anyone else on here dealing with postpartum depression?

Question

I had a beautiful baby boy 10/26/06 who is intelluctually developing fast. I was dealing with really bad depression during my pregnancy and I thought I was doing fine since I delivered. Acourse a couple days up to a week afterwards i was crying for no reason but i knew that was from my hormones. but now im crying again, extremely paranoid of my boyfriend leavin me again for someone else and bein stuck with this baby all by myself, i feel like no one understands me or what im goin thru, my moods go from one extreme to another several times a day, i flip out on ppl for no reason, i feel i look disgusting, i had sex 3 times since having my baby during i feel dirty and ashamed and i have thoughts of my boyfriend having sex with other ppl but i know i need to please him due to the fear of him goin else to be pleased. i feel like my life is tumbling down and i have no control over it and im afraid of taking my boyfriend and my child down with me.not often i have thoughts of hurting my child

I looked up on the net postpartum depression and gave it to my bofriend to read but i think he has noooo clue what im goin thru. which hurts cause he's the closest person to me. I have no friends to lean on. me and my bestfriend stop being friends while i was pregnant and that has done a number on me too.

Answer 1

First - your boyfriend is not going to leave you. You just gave him a beautiful baby and if anything he will love you more. But feelings can get confused on the man's part too if he doesn't know that he's not doing something wrong. You need to level with him, go see a doctor and work through this together. The one thing you don't want to do is constantly accuse him of cheating because your insecure. This will make him think that you don't know him and are insulting him by thinking he is that type of person.

Answer 2

Thats probably the worst. We should be jumping for joy at the love of a new baby but instead we feel like sitting in the middle of the livingroom crying our eyes out.

From experience:
See your doctor - the "baby blues" should last no more the 2 or 3 weeks. Since you had depression during your pregnancy it could be more serious. You may even need medication for a short time to get you over this.

If you are having issues in your relationship it just makes the depression worse. Remember, the first couple months with a new baby is more then just that, its a major life change and it will take some getting used to.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

You have a severe case of Post Partum and you need to go to the Dr. or at least call into the office and speak to the nurse. If it is a money issue, then you need to call the Local Health Department.
Are you nursing?? All the feelings are part of the hormones, however some get it more sever than others. My advice is to seriously seek some medical advice today. They will be able to help you. There are so many treatments available now. I had a horrible case of the blues after my twins were born. I had to call in to the Dr. also. There is nothing to be ashamed of....just seek some professional help and not some "cure" someone could give you here.

Answer 4

Oh my goodness, I had postpartum depression after I had my second child. Not after any of the others. It got so bad that I couldn't sleep at night or anything. I ended up going to the doctor and they put me on medication for a short time. It helped tremendously. You need to see a doctor and make sure that it isn't just hormones. I never wanted to hurt my children but I was the most miserable person in the world for a while.

Answer 5

It would be nice if people were. In case they haven't been looking the middle class is so divided we're getting screwed at every turn. So the quote a house divided can't stand and neither can a middle class. spiritually speaking or just plain old common sense. Discussion I doubt it to many people let others do their thinking. A wise man said centuries ago Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth. Someone is doing a damn good job. This country is damn near split 50/50 on the truth and fiction. In the sky, there is no distinction of east and west; people create distinctions out of their own minds and then believe them to be true.

Answer 6

Go see your doctor. You can get put on meds. If you are already on meds then you may need to change them. Sometimes they just stop working. That is what mine did. I had to get on antidepressants after my second was born and have had to be on them ever since (my family history doesn't help much). The only thing you will do wrong in this situation is if you let your medical condition (depression) ruin what a wonderful life you have to experience. Go see the doctor and get on some meds. They will help LOTS. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to you can email me [e-mail]

Answer 7

I dealt with this same exact thing 15 years ago. My heart aches for you...

My dear, you need to go to your doctor. You already know that there's a problem, now it's time to work on getting it resolved. There are a lot of ways to feel better...medications can help. Exercise (if you can will yourself to do it!) or forcing yourself to do things you enjoy.

As far as the meds go...they really can help. Usually, they're temporary and they're not "magical." They stabilize your chemical imbalance and get you to feel well enough to start doing the things you used to enjoy but stopped.

Your beautiful baby boy is reason enough to get moving on this. He's a beautiful baby because of his beautiful Mom! Take care of yourself girl...for the benefit of all.

Answer 8

I did suffer from mild postpartum depression with both of my children, but especially with my youngest son (who is now 10). I basically made it through okay, but I went to the doctor a year ago and was placed on an anti-depressant (Effexor XR). I have felt like a completely different person.

My suggestion is to go see you local family doctor who can either refer you to a psychologist who specializes in postpartum depression or prescribe an anti-depressant if he/she feels it is necessary.

The most important thing is to seek outside help now before it goes on too long or worsens. Trust me, life is too precious to waste one minute in depression!

Answer 9

Ohh its going to be ok. Just calm down...try to think it through as for what realyl is important. You don't need to do all this stuff for your boyfriend. If he doesn't understand...then thats his problem. If he leaves you for someone else...then he's a jerk and doesn't deserve you. You jsut went through A LOT and he should understand that!!!! Its normal to feel depressed and just want to sad. It happens to a lot of women. It happened to me...i managed to pull myself out of it fast though. My baby is 5 weeks old and i still feel sad a little. mainly just becuase its so much responsiblily.....so fast....so much. Its hard to deal. You know its ok for you to talk to the doctor. He can help! Medicine...other doctors...advice...he can help. If you dont want to go to the doctor cause your ashamed or scared or anything like that...then dont do it for you, do it for your baby. Cuase the last thing you want is for this to get any worse and something happen to your baby. So, please....take care of the problem before it gets serious. For your baby please.

Answer 10

I suffered depression prior to becoming pregnant. Somehow during my pregnancy my hormone managed to balance things out and life was great and I was off meds. Then about a month or two after having my daughter it hit me hard. I wouldn't talk to anyone, I was worse than I was before pregnancy. I was mean and hateful to my husband...I was verbally abusive and actually hit him once...that was when he called the doctor. My husband made me go to the doctor and he put me back on meds but I refused to take them because I was nursing and afraid of the effects it might have on my daughter. I created a journal for myself and wrote down every little personal thought I had whether it was good or bad. Since my husband was aware of my situation, he told my friends and family and everyone came to my side offering help. My husband had someone watch our daughter so he could take me out on a couple of dates...he made me get dressed up and everything. My best friend made me hang out with her and her son (who is a few weeks younger than my daughter) and basically everyone made me talk to them and went out of their way to help me feel better about myself and life. They created a support system and it's still there for me and without them I think I'd only have gotten worse or I'd have to stop nursing and take the meds to get better. Find a support system/team for yourself. Talk to your man, friends and family and let them know what's going on and how you're feeling so they're aware of how serious this is and that you're asking for help. Congrats on the new love of your life and best wishes! Don't worry, with time things will get better.