i'm only 21 and i'm about to get married and i want to know if i should have a baby, me and my wife are making over 200k a year so money is not an issue to us and everything is going great but is it too early for me to be a dad? please give me your opinion
2007-01-03 01:55:36 · 11 answers · asked by Hong T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I personally believe that if you feel like you and your significant other are ready, go for it. "Age is nothing but a Number" if you and your wife have decided that you are ready, the next step is to check with your family doctor and make sure you are both physically ready to have children. But if you are unsure you can always get a pet or even a plant and try out your skills at naturing and taking care of these together as an additional responsibility to your previous and current responsiblites. But I now that this point in my life I personally am not ready, it is not my age or my financial situation it is my lifestyle and personal preference, But when you and your wife are ready, You are ready no matter what age you are.
2007-01-03 02:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations :) Not many will be able to achieve the financial wealth you & your fiance' have already attained. Enjoy your wedding, travel & bond as you establish your foundation together. Even start your future childrens trusts while you're at it. What kind of a dad do you see yourself being in the future? Let your marriage duties as a husband form & grow as well as your wifes. Share your hopes & dreams, set goals & work towards them together :) When children enter the picture life changes again & family priorities take place. Enjoy steps as they happen. It is a huge responsibility being a parent in charge of their life until 18 yrs of age & beyond. I think it is great you're excited about your life & wanting a family to share your love with. Money cannot replace you so be ready to truly invest yourself. Quality time is essential for healthy relationships! For me being a young mother helped me grow into responsibility & maturity in my own viewpoints. Financially I was & still am no where in the neighborhood of where you are (even having 14 yrs on you!). I love who I have become & am working fervently to assist my teenager to love who she is & learn from my path choices. Hope you both make the right decision for you as a couple. No one decision is right for everyone :)
2007-01-03 11:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for 3 years. Money is not what is important. Spend this time with your wife and get to know her, before you know it, the baby will get al the attention and you will be on the wayside.
2007-01-03 09:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that parenting is never an easy job. It is more difficult than working in a large company; more difficult that competing in a physics olympiad; and more difficult than going to a battlefield.
Let me remind you with this inspirational poem:
If a child lives with criticism, He learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, He learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, He learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame, He learns to be guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, He learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, He learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, He learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, He learns justice.
If a child lives with security, He learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, He learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, He learns to find love in the world.
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Here, we can know that raising a child requires patience, dedication, hard work, perseverance, and most importantly, good behaviour and moral values. Parenting must never involves giving bad examples to kids, such as fighting, shouting, quarreling, et cetera. Thus, one must be mature enough in order for him or her to be a parent.
Now, my question is: Are you ready for this? Do you think you are mature enough? Look for the answer deep inside you; only you can know it. If you think that 21 is a good age, why not?
But, still, if I were you, I would wait for a few more years. I would prepare and equip myself with all the necessary skills needed before I decide to be a parent.
The decision is on your hand
2007-01-03 10:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Asker Knowmore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait at least 5 months in to the marrige before trying to have a baby
2007-01-03 12:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait a couple years and enjoy married life first. Once you have a child he/she will take all of your attention. Enjoy yourselves first. You have plenty of time to have kids.
2007-01-03 11:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you. If you think you ready, then go for it. It is good to be a dad early so you can see your kid grows up.
2007-01-03 13:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too early!!
But then again, I am not crazy about kids either.
Make sure you enjoy your freedom, as once you have a kid, it is forever.
When you are ready, you just know it.
2007-01-03 09:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Canadian Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait you and your wife will have plenty of opportunity to have a child just enjoy marriage for a while
2007-01-03 10:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not just too young to have a baby but too very young to even get married!
2007-01-03 10:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by mama leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋