What do you do when you find your relationship deteriorating after courting for 6.5 years?

Question

I have been dating my girlfriend for nearly 6 1/2 years now. We have had our ups and downs in our years of courtship. We even promised ourselves that we would marry each other when we were settled. However, the point of worry is that we hardly spent quality time with each other although you would expect us to do that. Most of the time we would be surrounded with friends and family. The outcome is that we realise now that we hardly know each other. I find my girlfriend in tears very often when we meet. At the same time she swears that she is so attached to me that she cannot imagine marrying anyone else. I do not know whether we have grown so attached to each other that we are unable to open our eyes to the realities of the world. I have been faithful to my girl all these years; our problem is that if we do decide to break up; we would lose the comfort of each others shoulders in our pain. Whether we would meet people we would be able to strike a cord with in the future is anotherquesti

Answer 1

You said you find your g/friend in tears often when you meet. What is that all about? I think you both need to sit down after 6 1/2yrs and talk about what you both want from this relationship...is it Marriage you both want?....because if that's the case...you need to start COMMUNICATING to one another openly and honestly.
There is a time for "family and friends" to socialize with..but in a relationship you definately need ALONE time with one another ..Not just once a month.....Make the Time and get to the heart of things..as to where your relationship is going. YES after 6 1/2 yrs...if you were to 'break up'...you would not have her shoulder to cry on and vice versa..but you will be able to move on, although a broken heart never goes away right away. She willl always be in your heart but if it's not meant to be...it's not meant to be. You can't waste more years before you realize this. So....My suggestion would be to spend quality time with your g/friend and talk about what you both want out of this relationship and out of life........take it from there to see if you're still compatable or just comfortable with one another. GooD LucK

Answer 2

no..i think you guys should work it out..why you still love each other and you could easily fix this..i sense that you both still love each other :)