I moved out. We have not been speaking as she told me she would call me when she is ready. This morning I stopped by the house before she went to work (to pick up stuff), and i noticed that she must be wearing the ring again because it was no longer in the box. The house was messy (its normally not) and a note I had written her was laying in bed. What do you make of this, do you think she still wants to be together and is there anything I can do on my end while still giving her her space?
2007-01-03 01:44:14 · 25 answers · asked by Tunasandwich 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she is doing what she asked for. Space to think. She's obviously thinking hard if the letter is in bed. She was probably reading it before bed looking for comfort. The house could be a mess because she's upset and feeling down and letting things go. She might be wearing the ring so nobody at work or family asks why she isn't and she has to explain why. My guess is she's upset about the fight and thinking about the relationship and she'll eventually call you to talk and get back together. You should probably continue to give her the space. If you want to get back together you could leave a note saying such to give her something to think about. But stay out of her way until her anger subsides.
2007-01-03 01:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mate the ladies are funny. I moved 500 miles to give my wife space. She came up there begging me to come back. Now I'm back & she still needs time. If Love is real it's goin to work out. If not, your savin a lot of $. I know u love her but no one knows what a woman want's. I've had women tell me that they don't know. Is she young? Is this her 1st time to get married. U know if it is that is a good thing, Tells me she is thinking about a life long commitment, so be gratful. Always keep the door to communication open. Best o luck to yall. I got a laugh at the answere from Females vs. Males. I doubt she pawned the ring. Livin together nothin is WRONG with that. Follow your hear, the one on your shoulders, not your heart cause it gets chrused. LOLuck
2007-01-03 01:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by Blues Man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you never said why you'll had a fight and if she wanted space maybe you were crowding her. SOmetimes when your engaged some people think they own the other person and need to know when, where and with who they are all teh time. That is why trust is a must in a relationship. Just because your chatting with someone doesn't mean your sleeping with them. SO what you need to do to show her you still love her clean up the house and go to her and talk with her ask her if she still wants to be engaged or not, and hopefully she will tell you how she feels and what has to be done for your relationship to continue. SO Good Luck
2007-01-03 01:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she still wants to be with you. She's probably calming down and realizing that she still loves you and wants to be with you. If you didn't see the ring then she's probably wearing it for sure because she misses you. As far as the note goes, she probably has been reading it over and over for some comfort since she hasn't been talking with you. It's great that your giving her space right now because it gives her a chance to think things over, and it also gives her a chance to realize what she has in you. I would just leave a note anywhere she can find it letting her know that you love her, and your waiting for her to come back to you. Let her know that when she's ready you'll be waiting with open arms. Also try and call here and there to let her know these things as well. Good luck, and I hope that everything works out for you to because I know you miss her.
2007-01-03 01:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We'll it depends on how you feel about her , if you love her then just wait for her to call , if she did put the ring on , then you already know where she stands . Love is a hard thing , and sometimes when two people fight it does make you think how your marrage will be . Do not push her , let her make all the moves. You can show a person you love them by respecting them , and if she ask you to wait till she is ready to talk , then wait , by the way , my ring has been back in the box for 3 months , we are still dating , and he is not pushing me to put it back on , he is just happy I am still here . And I am very grateful for the respect he shows me . Good Luck Friend .
2007-01-03 01:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by christina3661@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she didn't break-up completely let's you know that she loves you. Right now she's probably playing in her head all the possibilities of going on with the marriage (good and bad), hence the letter in the bed and the junky house.
I would suggest flowers and a card to say that you love her and miss her or asking her to marry you again. Send them to her job if you can, that way she'll get attention from co-worker who can "pump her head up." The ring is probably on her finger so folks won't ask questions if they see it missing (women notice things like that).
Don't worry about calling her of visiting, because she needs space, but hopefully once she gets the flowers she'll call you (at least to say thanks) and then you can apologize and work things out.
2007-01-03 01:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Y.a.S.L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a female sometimes I have said things that I later learned to regret. everyone has spats here and there but you did not mention what you to argued about? I took a ring off one time in the heat of the moment and it ruined our relationship. If you truly love this lady maybe its not space she needs but a little more understanding and a little reassurance from her man? I know that is all I needed when I thought I needed some space? Kiss her and tell her you love her and smile sometimes in this world we get to soon old and too late smart. good luck
2007-01-03 02:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lorie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to look as if she is missing you.
How about showing up at the house when she's gone and clean it up the mess? It's a mess because she's been very distraught sence the fight.
Is she by any chance bi-polar? Just curious.
I think things will be ok once the space she needs comes to an end.
2007-01-03 01:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ASKED THIS QUESTION SO MANY TIMES BEFORE. No matter how you rework it, your situation does not sound good.
She kicked you out and took off the ring. It's over in her head she is just getting the courage together to tell you. If your relationship is this bad what do you expect from the marriage? Happiness and sunshine? Accept your losses and move on. I know it hurts but it's not healthy to be like this. Do you two enjoy fighting? Is this how you measure your love for each other? How much you can piss the other person off and have them forgive you?
I know she is "perfect"... just not for you. Marriage is about the bitter, not just the sweet. Sounds like you two are just in it for the sweet.
2007-01-03 02:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Zee Bee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just a thought. Since she had your note laying in bed, why don't you write a letter to her? A nice short letter expressing how much you loved the time you spent together. Don't beg, don't suggest. Even a poem (if you can find something appropriate) would be nice. If you want, you can say something like I'll always be waiting. You can send a letter with a flower (something she would like), too.
2007-01-03 01:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by spot 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋