What do i do?

Question

I am 24 years old and recently found out i am pregnant with my second child. My first child and i have been on our own since her birth, she just turned two and is the light of my life. I was planning on going back to school and getting a new car and finally starting my life right and now i have another life to worry about. I have thought about abortion only because i know it is the easiest way out. i have never had one and dont know that i ever could. I am very stuck on what to do i thought this would be the year that i could get my life on track and already i have failed at that. Any advice would be great. Thanks

Answer 1

I had my second child at 23 so I know how you are feeling, but think when you got pregnant with the first child you probably though it was going to be really rough but look you have put a foot forward to where you want to be in your life so being pregant again will only make you strive harder to accomplish your goals, I know it was rough for me, I ended up having a third baby and getting married to there father. We now have a nice house and living comfortably but we have worked really hard that's what children do.

Answer 2

Why didnt you think about what you would do before you got pregnant??? Abortion isnt the answer for not using some sort of birth control. If you decide you cant keep the baby than please give the child up for adoption.

I know you are on your own and you want to do this and that to improve your life and the childs life you already have. But look at it like this..... you already made it 2 years on your own with a little one did you think you could do it then??
For what ever reason, you have this new wonderful little life in you some one ( God if you believe in him) gave this life to you take care of. And to end its life because its easier on you would be selfish. And I dont think thats the person you are by any means. So think it through. Have faith in your self and your abilities, and you will do whats right for both of you.


I wish you luck and I hope you have a great year. Strive for the best

Answer 3

Don't beat yourself up. We all make mistakes. The same thing happened to me but when my first child was 5. I had gotten her all the way in school eliminating daycare costs and bing bam boom, oops I did it again! Just know that your future plans can still be achieved, they just might have to be postponed or they may take longer now that you are expecting a second baby. I thought about abortion but I couldn't go through with it and live with myself after-wards so I just held my head up and had my baby. Sometimes the easy way out isn't the best way out. Stay focused on what you want to do. You have 9 months to get your life on track before the new baby comes. Sometimes children are actually a blessing. I know mine have made me work even harder to achieve my goals. This new baby may present a minor set back but just stay strong and focused on your goals and just find an alternate route to get there. Your road hasn't been blocked, you just hit a speed bump, that's all. Just think, your oldest baby will mature and soon be a big help with you and your new baby. I wish you the best of luck and just encourage you to stay strong and NEVER lose your focus.

Answer 4

You have not failed...there is still hope for you! Whatever you decide, just remember that things always seem to work themselves out. Maybe you will have to wait one more year for school and a new car? Would there be a father figure for your second child? Do you have any family that may be able to help you? What about taking some on-line classes? There are always options. Although I am definitely on the pro-choice side of the abortion issue, I wouldn't suggest it. But, the choice is yours. You will figure out what is best for you and your daughter, it just takes time. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

Is this child's father going to be in the picture? I think that is a big question.

I think that you should really weigh all the other options before settling on an abortion.

I mean there is adoption. You will still have to go through the pregnancy but there will be a couple there to help you. Also, you could request that it be an open adoption so that you could still be a part of the baby's life.

This way you don't have the guilt of an abortion, you still get to see your baby and you have made the lives of a couple who other wise wouldn't be parents.

Answer 6

Don't get an abortion. If you feel the new baby would be too much for you to handle than please give it up for adoption. There are many couples out there that would love to adopt a baby and they'll even pay for all the expenses and everything. My sister can't have kids cause of medical reasons and she adopted 4 babies! (Not at the same time)
Just think about it. Abortion is not a good choice.

Answer 7

Where is the father in all of this? Seems like you shouldn't have
to carry this burden alone. Whatever you decide to do,it won't be
easy either way. Adopting out the kid might be the answer if you
don't want to put your life on hold again for another two or three
years. You might want to be more careful in the future and practice birth control.

Answer 8

Are you really sure you want to have an abortion? Yes, it's going to be harder with two, but you can do it. There is plenty of help out there. Abortion is something that is very hard and will always be haunting you. I can't tell you what to do I'm just saying think about it. way your options. You have to do whats best for you. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 9

Do the best you can do. Just b/c you ahve been set back a little doesn't mean you failed. You have to follow your heart. WHat about the abbys father. Just b/c you aren't married doesn't mean he can't help you. Weigh your options talk to family and the babys father. Good luck with whatever you chose.

Answer 10

I know who you can ask about this he always Keeps his promises, never lies, never leaves you hanging and when in doubt will talk to you in a manner which if you open up your mind and listen to his whispers you will be OK his name is God , he can do all things and he tells us to turn all our worries over to him Its about Faith Believing in him 1st and yourself. I raise 2 sons alone i thank God they have served no jail time, no drugs they are both servicing their country as i speak 1 as a petty officer and the other Sgt. in Special forces, it was prayer that brought me through and me changing my life still and having Faith in him he sees all and forgives all , i had an abortion when i was 16teen and being raise in church, grandfather a minister was tough. i then God pregnant my first yr. in College but my grandfather always told me you have to answer to God not man you walk with your head up God knows your heart. Be Blessed He will see you through