Help! I am always worried about something....ALWAYS.?

Question

I am a 32 year old woman with a great husband and beautiful healthy 4 year old. I always worry about something like my daughters health. Will she always be healthy? It can go on forever and ever. I worry about if someone is going to die and when and why. This is crazy stuff. I can function normally and raise a family but in the back of my mind, there is something that I worry about. Any serious advice, serious advice only--please.

Answer 1

A bunch of years ago as a young father with more kids coming I developed what Dr.s called hungry ulcers from constant worry. They sort of talked me somehow into how to go back over all my concerns every day, analize them and try to eliminate them as not a serious worry and to handle what seemed to be a serious problem as well as possible.(not sure if I'm making any sense here with words) Anyway it gradually worked, except maybe I stopped worrying too much.

Answer 2

I've been through the same thing. Some of it is habit, and some of it is OCD.I got to the point that if I wasn't worrying about something I would panic.I too functioned normally but was never quite happy.Trying to control your thoughts is very hard.Don't give in to them.They are only thoughts and shouldn't controll your life.Their are some medications out there that can help,making it easier to dwell on what's important in life.I think everybody doe's it but most don't get caught up in it like you and I.You might also try behavior modification.It might work.Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

Look Nancy.

I Noted your problem

This is very simple, i lwould to like to bring your attention. to the following:

If you see a rope in dark and misunderstand that its a snake, what will happened , u will fear and take a stick to beat that or run away.
First if you wish take the lamp and u see this as a rope, what u feel , u smile and breath it easy. If you feared your body will increase the pumping rate and you feel emotional disturbence and u feel good and a normal relax it will not be a problem, nature will be grace you.

If you keep this much time in repeat ion nature or keep emotional disterbence it will week and yourself feel that as moving crazy.

Hence don't think or worries about your baby. she will be safe in nature /god hand, you are the not one govern the world. so you do your duties with take care of your daughter. If you give much more importance it will be terrible and you can't perform to. This in life every field applicable, keep the rhythm law of nature and
do the duties to give sincere and impotence of your health to.If not you can't help you as well the others which you loved to both will be terrible. so, don't think much act and remain things which is put into pry to your beloved nature/god, and smile .

wish you a happy life.

Answer 4

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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Satsang

How can I know my mind?
An alert mind is not a problem; an unaware mind is. The mind projects the future to be fulfilling but misses the beauty of the present. If you are rich, you want to be richer; if you are strong, you want to be stronger; if you are beautiful, you want to be more beautiful. Such a mind does not make you live life but leave life.

Such a mind creates false prayers. You make a ritual out of prayer and pretend to pray. Such prayer becomes an empty gesture.

Why am I so greedy?
There is a visible world and there is an invisible world. There is a visible self and an invisible self. The visible world is a world of diversity and the invisible world is a world of oneness.

If we live on the periphery we will feel incomplete but completeness is one’s nature. This incompleteness wants us to be a complete person. But the only track it knows is greed, wanting more. The enlightened masters give us not a dogma but a device to reach this state of completeness.

We should stop fooling around with life. Just thinking to be happy is not enough; just thinking to be wise is not enough. It is a luxury to think but it is wisdom to live. Ask yourself: Are you concerned with reality or fantasy?

There are two ways to know reality. If you want to know objective reality, then science is the way out. If you want to know subjective reality, turn to spirituality.

Why does one worry in life ?
Worry has become a habit for many. An inner energy that is not creative goes around in circles of worry. A creative person is one who, when he encounters a problem, is focused on the solution and is not a victim to the problem. Convert the problem into a springboard for possibilities.

A doctor does not cure illness but allows the healing process within to surface by giving it the right condition. So, too, the true healer exists within you. But you have to create the right condition. By looking at the mountain you can’t climb the mountain, you should will yourself to climb the mountain. Optimise this will for you to be above worry.

What should one do to be successful in life?
Ultimately what you need is self-confidence, mental toughness, commitment to excel and the ability to use the power of imagination.

What do you mean by self-confidence?
There are three pillars of self-confidence: Feeling good, taking responsibility and developing skills. There are both healthy ways and unhealthy ways of feeling good. You should develop the discipline to feel good in a healthy way. The quality of one’s life is the quality of one’s consistent feeling. There are techniques that are taught how to hold and maintain consistent feelings of empowerment within you.

How does one acquire clarity?
Clarity is acquired not by knowledge but by knowing. It is not a belief system; it is intelligence operating in the domain of freedom. The true meaning of renunciation is not renouncing the world but renouncing bondage. When bondage is renounced there is freedom, the most important thing. In freedom lies intelligence. It is not just discipline but true freedom. Freedom is not something devoid of order; it is a flowering of order.

Answer 5

I've been like this. I know exactly how you feel. I take Paxil for it and it seems to work just fine.