I was talking to my bf last nite and we couldn't agree on this. He has a really good female friend that he's known for 18 years and he feels like she's a sister to him. Nothing has actually happened between them, but there was 2 occasions where he made some inappropriate passes at her when he was drunk. During New Year's Eve, we were hanging out, drinking, and having a good time. As the evening progressed, she laid her legs across his lap for a little bit, which didn't both me too much cause I was right there. I can see that as being a bro/sis bond. But then she jumped on his back for a piggy back ride because he was in her way. In my eyes, these actions made me a little uncomfortable. It just seemed like inappropriate behavior. He doesn't see anything wrong with it. He stresses that they are like bro and sis. Am I over reacting?
2007-01-03 01:07:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She doesn't really drink and she likes "tall, dark, and handsome" guys. My bf is not tall and not dark.
2007-01-03 01:20:07 · update #1
Sounds to me like you have some jealousy with her. I went through this with my fiancee not too long ago. I guess at some point if this continues to bother you to no end, he is going to have to make a choice between this girl and you. Personally I think you need to take a step down unless you see real reasons to be concerned. The fact that nothing has happened in EIGHTEEN YEARS should indicate that there is nothing there. I think he would have made a move by now.
To me those were actions of a close friend who has a playful relationship with their friend.
2007-01-03 01:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might want to keep an eye on that.
He may not see anything wrong, yet she may be flirting and trying to start something.
Those long time friends with that sis and bro relationship can change to something else if one starts it.
Been there and done it.
2007-01-03 01:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by MES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right. This is not acceptable bro/sis behaviour. I would have a frank chat with him to find out what's going on.
2007-01-03 01:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jumping on for a piggy back ride sounds like pretty child-like behaviour to me. It's hardly erotic. I wouldn't worry too much about it, unless they are alone together when both very drunk!
2007-01-03 01:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by cantabrana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is more than bro/sis stuff. I would be suspicious too.
2007-01-03 01:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be innocent, but to me thats flirting. He should deal with that.
I will definitely not like it.
2007-01-03 01:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could forsee a problem if they are drinking together and no one else is around.
2007-01-03 01:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it bothers you let him know right or not overreacting or not you don't like let him know and try to work it out dont ask him to stop being friends with her but let him know you feel uncomfrotable
2007-01-03 01:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by HEIDY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it this way "if that was his REAL sister" would it piss you off as much???
you will know how to answer yourself ;)
2007-01-03 01:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Maximus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋