My boyfriend told me I'm naive in relationships. I think it's because of the way I react when he doesn't call me very often, he told me that his guard is up now because I called him a using bastard via text message and I think he sees me as the nagging type that is insecure. How can I make him think otherwise? and what does he really mean by saying I'm naive in relationships? do you think he likes me enough to point this out? I'm 22 xx
2007-01-03 01:06:39 · 8 answers · asked by Angelina M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
big deal
leave him
move on
2007-01-03 01:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naive, meaning that you don't know much about relationships. Is this your first serious relationship? you might want to back off a little. It's never good when someone calls you naive, and then followed by someone calling someone a using bastard. Try and talk to him, let him know that you miss him and you just want to know if he's OK. tell him that when he doesn't call you get worried. Men don't like to "check in", but if you phrase it nicely, normally change their minds. Again, though try and not be too clingy because if he see that you're too complicated for him he will leave!!!
good luck!!
2007-01-03 01:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by Julz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says that you are naive he means that you are a bit childish. You are not ready for a serious relationship. you do not live in this world but in yours where you think that all things are perfect. Thats what he means by you are naive.
So because he doesn't call you as often as you want you call him a bastard that's using you. If i were your man i would have left you. That is a pretty mean thing to say.
You have to grow up and act your age. If you find that he doesn't call you enough then you talk to him like and adult and you tell him about it. Do not resort to childish actions.
2007-01-03 01:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend was clearly showing a sign of irritation. He probally said it out of frustration because of your nagging personality that finally hit his raw nerve on a bad day. He's indirectly telling you something worse by saying that you're inexperienced in relationships. I would confront him but that would also make you seem naggy. Maybe just try to be more mature and less clingy?
2007-01-03 01:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soundslike this boyfriend of yours is hiding something and using this 'naive' of an excuse.
If youre both in a relationship, and there is not much of communication beyond something that just friends do among themselves, then there is possibly something else going on...
It is a natural thing for you to react that way if there is not much of communication like you say... Rather it seems to me that your boyfriend is keeping you at a distance, maybe he sees himself as a 'player' and has a 'stable' of girlfriends or something.... It is possible, but he may not be like that.
Your boyfriend has some issues if you both are in a relationship and he keeps you at a distance and that you are concern of that distance, he blames you as of it is your fault for 'prodding'. Seems like he is more concern at being naive with 'cultivating' his relationship with you than he accuses you of...
At this rate, it appears to me that nothing will change, he will keep you at a distance and all the while find it as being your fault that it is so...
If it is something that he is afaraid of, such as getting closer, or self exposure or something, if he is willing to change... it may be worth it in trying to work things out, but... If he has another girlfriend and you are number 2, or his back-up, then it is time to find someone else that values a closer relationship...
I do not think he will point it out, sounds like he is more interestred in himself than having a 50/50 type of relationship..... like I said, it sounds more like an excuse he uses to nurse his ego and pride than an actual complaint against you.
2007-01-03 01:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Dee_Smithers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is going to be a control freak. Insisting on a relationship on his terms, and belittling you when you don't do everything his way. I hope you have more self esteem than to put up with this.
2007-01-03 01:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably right if you need to ask this on the internet?did he tell you he thinks your a insecure nagging type?or do you only think that?with what?
2007-01-03 01:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but bfs r supposed to say stuff we don't liek once in a wile as it is ia sig nof them wanting to make us a better person,isn''t neccesarily negative but isn't positive either,kjsut lay off for a bit
2007-01-03 01:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by 321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋