okay im not gd looking in the looks department but i knew someone who is not so too but have men approach her .. i think im giving some kind of negative vibe .. some of the men stares and tried to smile but i will not return the smile coz i;m afraid he mite be smiling at someone else..
what can i do to stop giving the negative perception of me to others...
2007-01-03 00:59:09 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get confident and believe in yourself
2007-01-03 01:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says you are not good looking??? You? There is probably something that is amazing about you but because you see yourself in a negative light, you haven't come accross it yet.
You need to start believing in yourself and, if you are not "conventionally" pretty, it does not mean that men won't like you.
I am a firm believer there is someone out there for everyone. You need to start smiling, make sure it is a genuine one to, the sort that meets your eyes!!! Your smile is one of the most valuable tools you have as a person.........smile and the whole world will smile with you. If you take the unsmiling look off your face and plaster a smile on then guys will think you are more fun and easier to approach. Would you rather approach a fluffy bunny or a snarling bulldog??? I know which i would choose!!!
Good luck x
2007-01-03 09:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie_Mummy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answer your own question above, you don't smile back.... If a man has no encouragement what so ever he will never approach you. Men are just as nervous as women when it comes to meeting people so you have to put yourself out there a bit. What's the worst that happens, he's smiling at someone else? Well then on to the next guy. But you'll find that some of these guys are smiling at you and it's probably your negative vibe about how "no one is coming on to me" that's the turn off. Smile back, i promise you'll be surprised at the results.
2007-01-03 09:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by blhenne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have more confidence in yourself. When you think people "might be looking at you", assume they are, and turn on a smile. Its the confidence that people see when they first meet you. The negative vibe u think your giving is your lack of self confidence. Go get a new haircut or something to boost your self esteem. Good Luck
2007-01-03 09:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by ber439_0116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The smiling thing has happened to me too many times! What I do now if when I go out and there's a lot of people around, I just smile all the time as if I just heard something really funny. I also would hold my cell phone as if someone just told me something that made me laugh.
2007-01-03 09:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a risk and smile back you lunatic! You never know it might just give the poor bloke a bit of a confidence boost he needs in order to make the nerve racking first approach that you are after.
2007-01-08 11:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by 31Alpha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Negative Vibes' I can understand the meaning of, but that terms is something of a red herring. It's a way of avoiding something else in our behaviours which we leach out onto a catch-all term as a kind of easily used safety vale.
Shyness, nervousness, fear, apprehension etc are some of which many of us have problems with and come in different quantities at different times in different mixes.
Looks matter, by degrees to some for varying lengths of time (tastes change over time too). I've met a variety of 'attractive people' who are 'attractive' because of their personality itself and not because of their looks.
Just think of it this way, if you were to meet a guy who was blind and whom you found attractive, do you think he would likely be turned away from you because you are not as attractive looking as others?
Good looks can always be lost, eaily. A good personality is much harder to damage.
Sash.
2007-01-08 09:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first need to start feeling better about yourself.
If you feel good about yourself it is going to show. When they smile at you smile back. Who cares if they are not smiling at you. If they were not smiling at you and they see you smiling they might just notice you and try to make more eye contact with you.
I stare at people. I am a thick girl and people feel that we can't get men but it is all about how you feel on the inside. It will show and trust me you will have men chasing you. I have them and i am happy with it.
You have to like and love you before anyone else could like and love you back.
2007-01-03 09:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy, and don't be so self conscious. Make eye contact and hit them with that smile. It's more pressure on the guys, and most guys are more susceptive to negative "tells" then they are to postitive ones.
2007-01-03 09:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all relax your self self confidence is a must always be polite and when i read your question teh first thing that i noticed is that you dont have any self confidence try that and you'll see some girls act all high and mighty but you always be friendly and a little aggressive because once you show them that you are soft they'll just take advantage of you
2007-01-03 09:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by beautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are scared coz you look at them with the 'im gona kill you' eyes? stop doing that huny. if you like a guy, just go straight up to the person and say... you, me, my bed NOW!!!
works like a charm, however he may not call you the next day but dont get scared, it may have been that your house was a complete abomination. but just follow him around and force the person to go out with you. nothing wrong with a forceful girl, right?
2007-01-03 09:06:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋