I was interested in this guy that used to be in the same class as me but now we don't see each other anymore since we went to the different school. Sometimes i think he's interested with my best friend. I don't know what to do next. Should i ever tell him? What if he rejects me...
2007-01-03 00:54:37 · 21 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should try talking to him about everything else. Don't you think it would be smart to at least have a regular conversation with someone before you decide whether you like them or not?
2007-01-03 01:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he had any interest in you back then you should tell him how you feel. If you aren't sure try to spend some time around him and see if he gives you any signals that he is interested - smiles around you, wants to be near you, looks at you frequently. Then I would say go for it. If you really need to know and are not afraid of rejection then let him know. If anything he will be flattered and may not have realized you had an interest. It may change his whole outlook. He may start thinking of you in a different way and want to get to know you better from a new standpoint. Good Luck. Remember, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
2007-01-03 01:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Blue-Eyed Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him............... What have you got to lose. He is not the only guy that you will ever like in life. You have got 2 options. You tell him, he likes you back, happy ending. Alternatively, you tell him, he does not feel the same, you know where you stand and you hold you head up high and walk away. In life you will get knock backs, but without those knock backs you are not living life to the full. Life is about good and bad and a few risks along the way. And when all else fails when you are having a bad day and feeling down, you gotta ask yourself, is anybody dead?? no just my pride hurt.
2007-01-03 00:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him what do you have to lose. You do go to different schools now so its not like you'd have to see him everyday if he did reject you. If you are friends or were friends with him, I'm sure that even if he wasn't interested in more than that he would let you down easy and take it as a huge compliment.
2007-01-03 00:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that is a lot easier said then done believe me.
I would say just hang out in a group setting first, nothing to intimidating. Get to know him a little bit and see how he reacts to you. If he likes you, you can always tell by his actions. It may be hard a first to tell but if he likes you, you will be able to tell it. Also, if you never tell him how you feel, you will always be wondering if he ever liked you. He my think that you do not lik him so he is not going to ask you if he does b/c he thinks that you do not like him. Just tell him that you like him and see what he says, if he does say no, then at least you do not have to see him everyday. Well, good luck. Just be yourself, that is all you can do., Just stand tall and be confident and you will be fine. Go for it!! :)
2007-01-03 01:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by sactified1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the phrase, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained"? It means if you don't put yourself out there and tell someone you like them, you'll never have a relationship. Rejection is part of the relationship game (not that it is a a game, but it is a part of developing relationships). How you deal with rejection helps shape your personality. Take a chance... Tell him how you feel. You may be surprised.
2007-01-03 00:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by McB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu have nothing to loose but ... pride. It can be a low blow trust me but if things worked out in your best interest then WOW! Guys are just as nervous as girls about getting "turned down", take a chance, just make it descrete, if he blows you off you can always say that he took something out of context. Tell your friend how you feel about him, most likely she will keep her distance from him, that is if she is a true friend.
2007-01-03 01:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See fear leads you no where. In fact even if he is interested in your best friend and he or her has neither talked about it , then you have the best opportunity to express your love to him immediately without any delay because, this is the best time and he would consider you just like bird in a hand is better that two in a bush. Hence My girl please express your views immediately to him and enjoy the fruits. All the best.
2007-01-03 00:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better tell him and live with knowing the truth than not knowing at all. He also probably likes you and does not know how to tell you for fear of rejection too. Truth hurts. If its not good news, just move on with life.
2007-01-03 01:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by divagal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should see if you can hang out sometime and do something fun together as friends or with a group of friends. Then at least that way, you could check things out without playing yourself.
2007-01-03 00:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Justcool 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋