I never show any differance between them, but I know in my mind that I am partiaol to my son. This is really bothering me. I can not have anymore children, and my hubby says that I feel this way b/c our son is younger. I do tend to "baby talk" with him. I just can not seem to let him grow up. Please help me understand how this has happened.
2007-01-03 00:52:55 · 12 answers · asked by kerbear7703 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think there is anything wrong....I have three girls 9, 6, and 3 and I love them all equally but they are all so different personality wise......I tend to hold on to the youngest a little more than the others......She is also my last baby......I don't want her to be a big girl as quickly as I wanted my 9 year old to be........I was in such a rush for my 9 year old to do everything........I think as long as you spend time with your daughter doing things she enjoys without your son around you'll be OK.....Also one of my kids personalities is so easy going its easy sometimes to just focus on the two more hyper ones.....but kids let you know when they want your attention.....as long as you do your best to balance your time between them and take time for yourself you'll be OK......after all .......none of mine came with a manual
2007-01-03 05:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children. A daughter,5, and 2 sons ages 3 and 2. I tend to be closer to my boys too, and my husband is closer to our daughter. I don't know if it's the female competition thing or what, but we just clash. She is a good kid, doesn't get into much trouble, but boy is she mouthy and has such the little bossy attitude. My boys are not mouthy at all, but they are mischievious and rowdy. For some reason I can tolerate that better than the attitude. Daddy's girl and Mama's Boys definitely are true here.
2007-01-03 00:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by miranda h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. Mothers always baby the sons more than the daughters.
Best thing is you at least recognize the problem. Just be very aware and your daughter will not grow up feeling like she is second best because of her sex.
Remember to cut those apron strings and let him be a boy and grow into a man. And not a wimp.
2007-01-03 00:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI
I went through this don't know why, but soon you will bond with daughter and take advantage of spending time with her. Encourage your son to play ball with your husband and do some artist craft thingy with your daughter it makes a difference. I did flower pressing with her and coloring and planting stuff in the yard and baking is a great way to bond. the baby talk you are just going to have to catch yourself doing it and stop. It is that easy.
Lammy
2007-01-03 01:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Clammy S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 09:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to how you feel as I have three children ages 3-9 and I tend to "favor" my youngest as well. It is normal because they are the "baby" and in my case, my last baby so naturally I want to savor every moment. I do however, love all of my children equally and I do divert attention to them in different ways and they have no doubts of my love for them. They just envy their little sister. You are perfectly normal so stop worrying!
2007-01-03 01:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is normal. I babied our 3rd son because I he was supposed to be our last baby. Im now pregnant again, but I am stil babying him alot. He is now 3 and I just cant stop. My other 2 are 7 and 9. He is definitley a mamas boy now. You arent doing it on purpose as long as you dont play favorites with them and your daughter notices it.
2007-01-03 01:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can change. I have noticed with my 5 that certain stages I am "in tune" with one more than the others. It has changed throughout the years. It's normal, and because he is your youngest he has needed your attention in different ways than your daughter.
Just don't let it get out of hand. Take some special time with your daughter to reconnect.
2007-01-03 00:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable right now because he is the younger one, but just remember to not let your daughter feel left out and try to spend some quality bonding time with her. It will all work out where you will love them both just for different reasons. Just try to spread out your love evenly.
2007-01-03 01:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by lilma85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always been closer to my oldest daughter. I always thought it may have something to due with me not being able to bond with her when she was born. I had severe PPD after I gave birth and couldn't be affectionate with my baby for a few months. I don't let it show or anything. Their father is closer to our youngest, go figure..lol.
2007-01-03 01:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋