3 months ago I asked my gf for time apart. things were moving too fast, and we were getting serious. She was very upset, but I insisted and didnt see her for a month. I realized how much I loved and I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, and she was dating someone else. She kept dating him, but I kept asking her back for about 1 week. She eventually forgave me and we are back and serious again. Recently I found out that she did not have sex with the other guy until the last night before she came back to me. I think she wanted to experience it, but I also wonder if it was a way to get back at me. She told him she would be going back to me, so that night he got the most out of it, and she admits they did it almost all night, three tim. We have talked a lot, about how she was hurt, but also about how she enjoyed the sex, which she tells me she did. we are back in love but I am a bit jealous. I know I gave her the freedom, but still I wish she hadnt used it.
2007-01-03 00:34:54 · 15 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What did you expect her to do? Just sit and wait until you realized that you were truly in love with her?! You gave her her freedom and she had the right to see anyone she chose. You hurt her and then you want to come back and you expect her to understand that you are hurt because she slept with someone else? Wow the ego of men lives on!!!
Get over it and move on, you are lucky to have her in your life now so stop your complaining and appreciate the girl!
Grow up
2007-01-03 00:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by rosebud1320 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you brought it upon yourself. Guys think we women are going to fall apart and stop living because you leave us, not so, as you are finding out. I think I probably would have done the same thing she did because it made you learn a valuable lesson about playing games. I bet you won't do "that" again will you? Now for some compassion, there isn't anything you can do about it but move on. If you love her as you say you do, then try to forget about it. You let her go and she went - chalk it up to experience and the next time you are feeling "scared" think about what's important first, before you make another rash decision (and mistake). Take care of her this time. Good luck.
2007-01-03 10:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a little late now to regret giving her freedom, don't you think? What's done can't be undone. What you need to do now is put it behind you. She's back with you, you claim that you two are in love...sounds to me like you won out, correct? However, I must question why she felt the need to go into detail about the sex she had with the other guy...were you pestering her for details or was she a bit too forthcoming without any pressure?
2007-01-03 08:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was kind of selfish really, but then again its because of you it happened, the only thing you can do really in my opinion is find things that take your mind off it, also stop talking about it, get on with your relationship and stop looking into the past. One way to stop the jelousy would be revenge, which is not a good idea, it could ruin your relationship.
Move on, make new memories.
Hope you feel better.
2007-01-03 08:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Hb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what is the question, you told her that you needed time apart, and that is what she did. Only she made the best of it, she found someone that she liked, and dated him, and well ok she slept with him, that was her choice, and you have to respect that. You where the one, that asked for the time apart, and that means you have to deal with whatever went on.
2007-01-03 08:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the reason for break up with her? See she was hurt really bad and who knows, maybe she did have sex with the guy only God alone knows. But I believe with all the hurt, she just lied to make you feel restless.
2007-01-03 09:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by thirisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't have your cake and eat it too ya know chicks! You told her you wanted time apart so she was free to do whatever she wanted. I probably would't even of taken u back so count yourself lucky!! She didn't misuse her freedom it's hers to use as she wants. Sorry hope it works out
2007-01-03 08:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dolly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant have your cake and eat it too buddy...sorry. bu tto be honest, she wasnt right in doing it will him the night before she decided to take you back. she did that just to make you jealous and to keep talking about it makes it look even worse on her. maybe you need to rethink this whole relationship.
2007-01-03 11:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have left her in the first place, so it's your fault. And anyway, she didn't cheat on you, she didn't have sex with him after going back with you, so I don't see where is the problem.
2007-01-03 08:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Nathalie D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, like you said - you dumped her - what she did or did not do during the time you were apart is really none of your business.
2007-01-03 08:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋