2007-01-03 00:34:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you were dumped, then you both were not happy afterall. That alone should make you mad enough to want to move on & not look back.
2007-01-03 00:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you thought was happiness,,was not,,,apparently he/she was not happy,,,or you would still be together,,,,their may have been things because of your happiness,,,that you did not see or just chose not to see,,,,and they built up for so long that the other couldn't deal with them any more,,,
No one said that you have to stop feeling what you feel,,,but in time you will be able to let go,,, and deal with it,,,love they say "hurts",,,I personally don't believe that,,,,because,,,,why would someone that was supposed to love you back,,,want to make you cry,,, or sad,,, or hurt you,,,WHY?????
Honestly,,,,I don't think they would if it was REAL LOVE,,,,,
Sometimes in life we want something so bad that no matter what is wrong with the person,,,,we want what we want and tend to over look alot of things that we know aren't right,,,,It is called SETTELING,,,,AND MAYBE he/she felt like they were tired of setteling and wanted to move on,,,,,I don't know but all I do know is that everything happens for a reason,,,and it wasn't meant to be or you would not be broken hearted,,,,,SOMEONE UP ABOVE HAS A BETTER LIFE AND MATE FOR YOU,,,,AND WHEN YOU FIND THEM,,,,YOU WONT BE ON HERE ASKING QUESTIONS ANY MORE,,,,,
Trust me,,,,you will be ok and you will in time see things more clear,,,and you will begin to see the peices fall into place as to where it all went wrong,,,and see that maybe it was for the best,,,I know it doesn't seem like that now,,,and you are confused,,,,but,,,,if you were that happy,,,,on both parts,,,,where is he/she now????????
Making themselves happier,,,,,, and you are at home on the computer asking for answers that only you and him/her can answer,,,,just take a moment and try to play back all the negative things in your head that have happened and ask yourself if it happened more than once,,,and was it a constant thing,,,that aggravated him/her,,,,and if you talked about those things,,,,and if you resolved them,,,completely,,,,
then,,,,close your eyes,,,,and sleep,,,just relax and go to sleep,,,and when you wake up,,,,guess what,,,,you are still breathing,,,the sun is still shining,,,the air is still blowing,,,,and you are OK,,,,,,,,,and will be OK,,,,,some times their is no explanation,,,it just is what it is,,,,OVER,,,,,and I know that sounds harsh,,,and I promise you I am not trying to sound that way,,,but I am sure you are a strong person,,,and you will be OK,,,,,feel what you feel and work through the pain,,,work through all the confusion,,,it is the only way to move on and it will make you a stronger person,,,,
I do sincerely wish you the best of luck,,,,and you will find someone one day,,,,that you don't have to TRY to understand,,,,you just WILL,,,,,and that is when you know you have found REAL LOVE and not question anything or be confused,,,,,
GOOD LUCK to you and I hope you find in yourself the answers to all of your questions,,,and I hope you move on,,,
DAPHNE
2007-01-03 01:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of the hardest things in the world and any suggestions like going out, keeping busy will not make any diffrence.
Why?
Because it's like grieving after a death, you can't get over that quicker, you can't go do something else and get it out of your mind, it doesn't work like that.
The mind (and the heart) had a wonderfull process to heal it'self and it takes time, the more you try and hide or run away from dealing with it emotionally the longer it will take.
I'm going through exactly the same thing right now so know just what your feeling.
2007-01-03 00:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only answer is to give it time & keep up with the rest of your life. As hard as it is, it lessons as time goes on. Busy yourself in other activities & maybe even meet new people & do new things, they will then not be reminders of the past too. Dont try to replace your partner straight away either, you will only regret it in time. Hope you find happiness
2007-01-03 01:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals. It's natural for humans to pine for what we can't have and portray the other person as perfect in their absence. Don't confuse obsession with love.
True freedom is to be able to live without what u thought u couldn't live without.
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2007-01-03 01:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by Zenithia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he wasn't happy otherwise you would still be together - if you still love him you would want him to be happy right? let him go and know that you will always love him but that you would rather know he was happy in life rather than unhappy and just staying with you for the sake of it.
Get yourself all glammed up and get yourself back out there - if nothing else show him what his missing.
2007-01-03 01:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont just turn off the love. That's not possible. Time, that is the answer to alot of things. Everything takes time, and with time the pain just starts to fade. Dont obsess (hope i spelled that right) about it. Give it time. Maybe that person wasent happy and didnt show it. Only that person knows why they broke it off.
2007-01-03 00:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by rosebud1320 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. But the only way it will get better is over time. I know people say that all the time about this sorta thing, but its true. I went through the same thing. I was absolutley devistated. But within time i got better, you begin to realise all what people around you are trying to tell you now. IT will happen to you too, you wont feel like this forever, i promise xx goodluck and takecare. x
2007-01-03 00:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by london lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good question with no easy answer my freind we all deal with things in differant ways was with what i thought was the love of my life for ten years no rows nothing thought we were happy bolt out blue she up and left with kids i tried todo something stupid bit touch and go going threw hell in court over kids but know what you get threw it takes some people forever but you do me 4mths and im living again stuff her not worth it found someone who makes me happy and has made me laugh again life to short so enjoy it while you can i know it dont seem that way right now but pick yourself up and go and face the world and live again trust me it works if you want it to good luck
2007-01-03 01:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by rabbit18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you're goin thru hun. I was dumped in Sept by my long term bf n i still think bout him everyday. It's really hard. It takes time i suppose but i'm still waiting for the pain to ease still after 4 months.
2007-01-03 00:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Dolly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋