3 months ago I asked my gf for time apart. things were moving too fast, and we were getting serious. She was very upset, but I insisted and didnt see her for a month. I realized how much I loved and I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, and she was dating someone else. She kept dating him, but I kept asking her back for about 1 week. She eventually forgave me and we are back and serious again. Recently I found out that she did not have sex with the other guy until the last night before she came back to me. I think she wanted to experience it, but I also wonder if it was a way to get back at me. She told him she would be going back to me, so that night he got the most out of it, and she admits they did it almost all night, three tim. We have talked a lot, about how she was hurt, but also about how she enjoyed the sex, which she tells me she did. we are back in love but I am a bit jealous. I know I gave her the freedom, but still I wish she hadnt used it.
2007-01-03 00:31:57 · 10 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i dont see where you can do anything.... I dont think what she did was right, but she was dating him at the time. If the tables were turned and she broke up with you, you had a gf, you would have done the same thing. I dont think she was trying to get back with you, i think that she liked him, but liked you more, and she wanted to get a piece of him before she went back to you. I would have to say that you guys talking about it is a very good thing!
2007-01-03 01:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok-well I don't really know what you were expecting-you were the one who wanted out of it-this is what you got. She didn't have any reason to not do it with him-and thats what you get for being a jackass and messing up a perfectly good thing. You should be glad she even took you back. I understand it may bug you, but well-sucks for you, next time you won't mess with a girl who is actually serious about you. I'm not all for sleeping with people outside of marriage, but good for her for attempting to move on or "teach you a lesson" if thats how you want to look at it....get over it, and anyways, this question has NOTHING to do with weddings, I'm a bride who wants to give and get advice on weddings, not for stuff that would be appropriate for the SINGLES AND DATING section!
2007-01-03 09:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to find a way to get over it or move on. Because that will eat you alive! I mean atleast she was honest with you and told you about it. You already won because you have her, so there is no reason to be jealous of this other guy. Try to do some different things in the bedroom. Find out what makes her hott that you guys havent tryed or done. Experiment so to speak! Goodluck!
2007-01-03 08:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you set her free by walking away. You can't control that free time. I mean, you didn't have some understanding with her that this was to be a celibate period of reflection, did you?
Learn to value her identity as an individual that has opinions and feelings unless you're looking for a robot as a GF. Use this as a lesson of sorts, and treat her as you want to be treated. If you truly love her and not just need her, you can understand this and move on.
2007-01-03 08:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by mattzcoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can wish that she hadn't used her freedom until you're blue in the face, but that doesn't change the fact that she did nothing wrong. When you forced the time apart, that was a risk you were willing to take.
2007-01-03 10:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you have to accept the fact that you messed up and move on...You were not officially back together so even if she slept with a football team you have no reason to be jealous...Get over this trivial nonsense and enjoy your new life together...Good luck.
2007-01-03 08:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Frank D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guess u wont make that mistake again. i had a guy do about the same thing to me. once he found out i was dating someone else he starting wanting to talk again abd "be friends" i totally blew him off...dont regret it at all tho. so it could be worse for u huh?
2007-01-03 08:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by jenivive 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry pal, learn to deal with it. You can't give someone a popsicle and then get mad at them when they have a lick. Next time, don't be so noncommittal.
2007-01-03 08:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just have to live and learn.
2007-01-03 09:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not do any thing about it, so get over it. your the one that let her go.
2007-01-03 08:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by as 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋