apology? My son or my daughter-in-law? Thanks.
2007-01-03 00:25:59 · 19 answers · asked by helen_cooper24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Neither should tell her. YOU should ask her for an apology. What the hell is wrong with you? You don't have a mouth? You can't speak? Do it yourself. No wonder your son's mom-in-law insulted you. She probably said something about how you can't do anything on your own or about how lazy you are.
2007-01-03 00:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course under any circumstance you should speak to her directly. Speak calm, and softly.Explain her how, or why you were insulted. Whatever she said might have been taken the wrong way by you. She may have been upset about something else and left it out on you. There are so many possiblities.
Under all circumstances you should give her the benefit of the doubt. No matter what be diplomatic, and mend any rift this has caused. Because if you think you are upset now, when there are family get togethers, weddings, grandchildren celebrations, birthdays, and weddings which are inevitable. You will rue the day that you didn't heed my advice. You cannot imagine the aggravation those occassions are going to give not only to you, but to the whole family.
I once read a quotation. "To keep a family together, there has to be allot of love and forgivness"
I am a woman in my sixties, with 7 daughter-in-laws, and lots of grand, and great grandchildren. I know what I am talking about. "I've been there, done that".
Sincerely yours
2007-01-03 09:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You - don't put your son in the middle - its hard enough dealing with your own family half the time let alone the in-laws. If you feel insulted you should confront the mother-in-law. Do not involve the children!
2007-01-03 08:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your son and daughter-in-law and see what they say. Perhaps they may feel that you need to talk to her yourself or that your daughter-in-law should speak with her mother regarding the situation. However please keep in mind what you say may cause an even bigger problem for your family. So think about what was said and ask yourself is there anyway you can let it go or is it worth approaching someone within your family about it? Keep in mind that the one that will be caught in the middle is your son between you and his wife and mother-in-law.
2007-01-03 08:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that that issue should be between you and your son's mother in law it will be very hard for your son to face his mother in law and tell her to apologise to you you have got to understnd how hard that is and the daughter in law has nothing to do with this you and the mothe in law need to be adults and work things out before it affects your sons relationship
2007-01-03 08:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter in law should be the one to talk to her. This is how my husband and I have always treated family problems...If my family does or says something about him, I should be the one to talk with them about it...If his family then he should...Look at it this way...If you say something in anger, most likely the situation will become more intense and there is no reason for them to forgive you, you are just an in law...They love their daughter and will be more likely to respond in a less defensive manner with her than with your son or yourself. Your son should ask your daughter in law to handle this and it needs to be discussed.
2007-01-03 08:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be the one, don't drag the kids into this. Truthfully, you sound like a royal pain in the *ss. You must make life hard for the kids, be very demanding and needy. Back off woman. Take the mother in law out to lunch, be nice, try to smooth things over with her. If you start pointing out every time she makes a comment that you don't agree with, you are only going to make the kids miserable. What do you want, them to be miserable and you to be right???? They will only push you away.
2007-01-03 08:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter-in-law should have said something to her mother right away. But since she didn't I would ask your daughter-in-law if she wants to talk to her mother for you or if she just wants you to handle it. She might not have realized that you were upset and if you go straight to her mother you might upset her.
2007-01-03 08:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should. It is not fair to use your children or their spouse to attempt to reconcile your problems. If she insulted you, then you need to be the one to tell her. It is really not your son's or daughter-in-law's business. Making them do it would be immature, as well as rude, as it would put them in an awkward position. It is not their fault the other party insulted you. Why should they be the one to be punished?
2007-01-03 08:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your daughter in law as i think she will understand whereas if your son telling her might offend her
2007-01-03 08:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋