my husband dont love me
i'm a drug addict
and i'm a cra p mum who wouldnt make it on my own
have tried to get help but my husband just took the pi ss!
please advice me
2007-01-03 00:01:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Suicide is NEVER EVER a good idea. It is the END. Take one day at a time and try to get help to overcome your weaknesses. Focuss on your strengths, and YES you do have them, just look and recogize them.
You can got over drugs,
You are not a crap mum, but you will be if you kill yourself and leave your child without a mum
If you husband cant help you get help from somebody who can
.
Learn to love yourself so that others will love you too. Not easy, but YOU CAN DO IT>
2007-01-03 00:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by London Girl 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
dear, suicide is never a good idea. All lives are precious and given by God... also imagine the hurts caused to those who love you, like your husband (deep down he probably does love you), your children, your relatives, and your friends. The only time suicide may seem the inevitable is when someone is in so much pain and is going to die anyway (like from cancer at the last stage), that suicide may be considered... I still would not call it a "good idea". All situations and environments are actually for us to gain God, we should be encouraged, that God is always there for us, if only we would take His hand.
About you thinking you are a crap mum... You are the mum to your child/children! It's not as if they could have a "better" mum. I'm sure you love them aplenty, and from what you said I can tell you care deeply about them, and those qualities alone already qualifies you as a good mum. You are seeking help here, and that shows you want to be a better mum, that's really good.
What Stargazer said is very true. Jesus loves you, no matter how bad you think you are. I hope you would let the Lord be your encouragement. I have prayed for you, and will remember you in my prayers also.
2007-01-03 00:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you start feeling that those you care about would be "better off without you" you are on the launchpad to suicide. Often the only thing that holds people back from suicide is the fear of how it will affect others, so when you find a way to think that the effect on others will be good, then suicide seems like an all round good idea. Bear in mind that this idea is certainly wrong.
If you know you are a "cra p mum", then you also know what you should do better. Start doing it, or get help to do it.
If other people are generally better off without you, killing yourself is the worst way to do it. Those who care about you, and even those who did not care about you, will be haunted by the event.
It sounds like your husband does not support you, at the very least, and may even be emotionally abusive to you, if he mocks your attempts to get help. Alternatively, you may be depressed and misinterpreting his response.
Carry on getting help.
2007-01-03 00:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by ags3y7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree life is one thing that you don't want to waste. One day, you will realize that all your feelings are caused bye the drugs, and other issues, I feel/felt this way alot, my husband is an idiot, who tells me he looks at porn because I'm old and fat (i'm 24 and about 140 lbs) he likes 16 year old girls that weight like 50 lbs. anyway, don't be too hard on yourself. I know it can be hard dealing with an asshole husband, and a drug problem. i've been there and done that, but i know i'm not a crap mom, I can say that i'm prolly one of the better ones, when it comes to my kids, i take the cake. you need to boost your self esteem. first and foremost drugs do not help. i'm sure you know this. Once i came off them and stayed off them, my eyes opened up to what life was about and how important things are to me, you only get one short chance to live, so you might as well really enjoy it, and no one should be able to take that from you. I suggest checking yourself into mental health, not because you seem crazy, but because you can get a break from things, and they can help you put things in perspective. I was never honest with the professionals, but now I'm really suffering from SEVERE anxiety, so i'm actually calling someone tomorrow about it, but my issues are so much different than yours, see i'm actually freaking out about dying, not contemplating suicide. ALthought I've been there too, and i'm glad that's over with. Anyway, don't be so hard on yourself, and maybe just spending more time with the child, and less time with the husband can help.
2007-01-03 00:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is never the answer, no matter how low you are feeling at the moment.
It sounds to me like you need to get rid of your husband if he is not going to even try and help you.
Get some councelling, get on a drug rehab programme cos taking drugs can make you feel low, so try your hardest to get yourself clean for you and your childrens life.
Without the drugs and with the help that is out there you can make it on your own with your kids and live a full and happy life. You can find out about help that you need through your doctor, who should be able to refer you to a councellor and drug rehab centre.
Good luck and all the best.
2007-01-03 03:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by eeore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are suffering from depression it is not uncommon to consider suicide as a good idea.
Please consider going to a doctor or contacting a support group or counsellor or so such.
Anyone who has these thoughts needs to consider this suicide is an easy way out and will leave many people hurting long after you are gone. And will leave other with questions that can never be answered leaving your child/children scared for life.
Depression is common and help is out there.
2007-01-03 00:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by funcplinvic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband doesnt love you, he is not worth worrying about. Go to your doctors and get help with the drug problem. All children look up to their parents, you can be a good role model for them if you want to be. Suicide is not a good option, what about your kids and the other people that you leave behind? You can make it, and it doesnt have to be on your own, there are many support groups out there that can help.
2007-01-03 00:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by L 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is not the answer. Some believe that makes everything better but it only makes things worst. 1. Get off the drugs. 2. If you can't afford to get help, I am sure there are options for those who want help but can't afford it. 3. When you are strong enough leave the idiot that doesn't love you. Life is short enough for you to be thinking of ending it sooner. And talk to a preacher or priest, they counsel also.
2007-01-03 00:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by Carmen S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need help, ask all the people you can for help. Go to or phone the citizens advice burro, and ask them. 'Phone the Samaritans, they can give you 'phone No's and addresses of people who will help. At this stage you probably just want it all to stop, but get the help you need and things will get better day by day. Take one day at a time. I know of a number of people who have had drug related problems, once they found help they were able to start turning their life around. Give it a try, good luck.
2007-01-03 03:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by funnelweb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is never a good idea, your husband may not love you but God does so much that he sent His son to die for you,call on to Jesus in prayer and He will! bring heeling into your life,He will heal you from your drug addiction and help you to become a better mom, just by you asking this question you are crying for help and He can answer your cry for help, I will aslo keep you in prayer ok. When He helps you ,you can be a help to other women in this situation to.Hang in there you are loved, Hope to hear from you when you get better.
2007-01-03 00:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Smiley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋