. . .and you have a desk piled high with work you were planning to light into. What would you do?
2007-01-02 23:51:52 · 15 answers · asked by ari-pup 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You're asking US for help, but it isn't ADVICE you need - it's GUTS. Why does she come to YOU? Because no one else will listen to her carping. Try to think of it this way - Is she a person who could make her husband happy? She sounds like a complaining lazy B. Start thinking of yourself as being on the husband's side. Next time she starts in, listen with that in mind. Tell her you think her husband doesn't sound all that bad. Believe me, she'll stop talking about him if you take his side.
2007-01-03 02:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If at all possible, I would listen and work as much as I could. If she needed more attention and I could give it for a bit, I would. Ultimately, in a kind way, I would prolly let her know (after some time lapsed) that I would be glad to talk again (if I were), but my work had to be done. Finish with a "I am sure you understand" and then dig into the work. If she doesn't leave, then indeed there is a problem.
Of that eventuality, yet another question may be in order.
Charles--That Cheeky Lad
2007-01-03 01:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would tell her to go home. Not a lie just that you have a pile of work to do and you cant chat right now.
Im am going by your wording of the question "latest troubles" and guessing that she maybe comes over on a regular basis and tells you about thier troubles.
2007-01-03 03:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't think I would want to listen to the marital problems, because it's not my business and I would like to continue thinking well of the neighbor's husband.
Is it possible to say something like this: "Jill, I really care about you but I'd rather not hear anything bad about Bill because I like him and think well of him. Also, I'm really distracted by my work right now and I'm not sure I could give you the attention you deserve. How about I give you a call tonight?"
2007-01-03 06:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen for a bit. Acknowledge her pain and wish her well. Now end the visit. Be firm about this. Explain how you must do your work. Offer to talk again in the future at a less busy time.
2007-01-03 00:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give her a hear and say how sorry you feel.
Listening for awhile is equally lightening personal loads within from that person,just like alighting their desk as well.I know its none of your biz,but remenber your her neighbour and she came with this trust that you could lend her your ears.Just help her by listening.No advice no suggestions on this context to her.
2007-01-02 23:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dipi s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's looking for a shoulder to cry on. If your a close friend, you can put the work aside for a few minutes. If she's just an acquaintance, it becomes awkward.
While its a good thing to want to help, the problems ARE hers, not yours. If you feel uncomfortable, say so.
2007-01-03 01:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for a little stress relief. A little sex with get her mind off her troubles and your mind off that pile of work. Give it a try. Works everytime!
2007-01-03 00:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Bernstein 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cannot tell a lie / at some point young or old everyone has lied about something to someone no matter how big or small .
2016-05-22 22:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your really sorry but are expecting someone to come over. Or. Tell them the truth. Might seem a bit mean but truth hurts
2007-01-03 01:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by emilyuk88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋