Growing up, I noticed a trend in the movies I watched, the songs I heard, the way women's fashion was becoming more revealing, and the increase in pornographic material for men. I see this trend showing how popular and acceptable being promiscuous has become. Promiscuity is such a part of our culture that now being open about our sexuality seems viewed more as a virtue than an offence, as it once was viewed 50 years ago. Understanding this trend, I grew up being repulsed by sex and scared of women. Sex is now rarely portrayed as something that is mysterious, beautiful, or even appealing. I even began to perceive it as being something almost vulgar or something to be feared. I was also confused because everywhere I went the message seemed to be that if you weren't having sex, you were somehow incomplete. I was even more confused in the midst of my teen years when friends began telling stories of heart-break and pain due to experimenting sexually and getting hurt in the process. Something is not right with this picture. To me, it appears that more problems result when we give in to the pressure to be sexually explicit over waiting to experience sex. Deep in my heart, I wanted to view sex as something sacred: something I would not give to just anyone. So I decided at a young age to wait to have sex until marriage. As some make a conscious decision not to take drugs, I consciously decided not to give my body to many women, but only to the woman I marry.
2007-01-02 23:44:50 · 20 answers · asked by Paul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see some people have already read this. I normaly wouldn't cut and paste but that is exactly how I feel on this subject.
2007-01-02 23:50:22 · update #1
Good for you, I hope you find someone who truly deserves it hun!
As for sex being over rated, no i don't think it is, but it is definitely a whole lot better with someone you love and trust.
2007-01-02 23:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What sort of answer are you expecting here? You obviously haveyour own unskakeable view. Yes, it's a big deal in many people's lives, and no, it's not a big deal in a number of other people's lives. If you're not enjoying it, you're not doing it right - but it is almost never something worth giving up on everything else you do just to pursue it. And for most people, it doesn't pay the rent...
If you don't think your current attitude is a healthy one, see a psychiatrist, only they can talk you through any problems and help you to find a different viewpoint.
2007-01-02 23:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by cuddles_gb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your correct when you say sex if pushed into your face especially in movies,music video's etc.
When i was growing up no one spoke of sex as it was something your parents did and we thought it was horrible,if your parents were doing it we certainly wouldnt do it.
Our culture now for many is to have sex at a young age,sit on the dole,live off benefits and sponge of every worker.
I used to work on the railway and the amount of 14 15 and 16 year olds that were pregnant was unbelievable(until you see i for yourself you cannot grasp the amount of teens having babies).
Its these teens that are setting the 'slob trend' they dont work(never will work)and they sit on the dole getting paid for getting themselves pregnant.
As you say 50 years ago things were different,although alot of things still happen now as then and yes there was teen pregnancies and diseases there just seems to be alot more nowadays.
I used to work with some-one who's mum had her 1st baby ay 16(in the 60's)the woman i worked with had her 1st at 15 and now that child has had her 1st baby and shes only 17.
It seems that some parents just accept it as growing up if there 15 year old comes home pregnant,im 36 and still have no children,my younger brothers 35 and hes no children,my mum and dad would have hit the roof if i would have came home as a teen and pregnant but as you said,times are different now.
I just think its unfair that me along with every other worker has to pay for these teens getting themselves pregnant,if the government stopped giving them hand outs you would soon see a decline in teen pregnancies.
I understand not every teen pregnancy will end up on the dole but they are only a very small minority.
As for being scared of women,no wonder you were scared,women have the potential to bring a man crashing down(i am female by the way),3 little words nearly always work
I AM PREGNANT
2007-01-03 00:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire your decision and I definitely agree with you. I have basically exactly the same opinion as you. I am also waiting and saving myself until after I am married and I do truly believe that I am making the right decision.
So stick by what you believe in and I'm sure it'll be the best decision ever once your wedding night arrives.
2007-01-02 23:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by littlepixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww that's lovely how uv made that decision and i hope u all the best with it, u will find the right person out their who has the same views as u. i admire u, i really do, theres not alot of men who think the same as u. All the best babe x x x
2007-01-02 23:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guarantee you that when you get older, you'll have a few regrets about your decision unless you're lucky enough to find that 1 woman that ends up your lifetime partner. It's your choice, you're doing it for the "right" reasons, good luck.
2007-01-02 23:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where you educated by Catholic Priests? - I understand they can put these negative vibes into your head when you are young and impressionable - don't go on a guilt trip - lighten up - practice safe sex and you will enjoy it - just like many Catholic Priests - lol !
2007-01-02 23:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by John M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily intercourse is a lot extra effective once you extremely love somebody. intercourse could be meaningless and regularly circumstances very ackward. you generally hardship what the different person is seeing and in the journey that your doing it suited. yet whilst 2 people fairly love one yet another, those issues do not look to remember. specific intercourse is extremely overrated.
2016-12-15 14:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is ok to do sex after marriage . sex only causes damage if u do it many times without using condoms.HOWEVER,sex does not only leads to aids but it also leads to sexophobia.it is a disease or addiction due to overseeing of sex movies and doing sex. in this disease u can live without sex .it is just like ciagrette or alchohol addiction. and its cure is also the same
2007-01-02 23:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by warblade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sex is slightly overrated, but then again, so is marriage. Don't be such a neurotic, dude.
2007-01-02 23:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋