he went out with his friend last night as he has not seen him over new year. His friend has started going out with a girl who was then out last night as well with all her friends. one of the girls gave my boyfriend a lift home and he didnt tell me as i was waiting for a phone call to pick him up. i am just a little annoyed about the situation. he was out at the pub with his friend and all these girls who have coupled up wiith his friends. i stayed in with my friend - but is this how it will be now my boyfriend going out with his friend and allthese couples what am i supposed to do - i just feel stupid that i am the only girlfriend who doesn't seem to get asked along? advice please................
2007-01-02 22:59:03 · 21 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i dont think that it is a problem when someone give him a lift, but its not nice that he dont let u know when u are waiting. talk to him and make him clear what u dont like. When u having a proper relationship then communication is importand
2007-01-02 23:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think u re overreacting. i would be angry too. anyone would. there is this rule in relationships - if u re a couple u re an item. so either both of u go out or noone does. so either he introduces u to his friends and u all go together or he dumps his friends and stay with u. there is no third option like he goes with friends and u stay at home and some girl is giving him a lift. and by the way, if he does smth which he is not comfortable telling u it is called cheating. cheating isn't only ian ntercourse with someone else
2007-01-02 23:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said you feel stupid and you are if you put up with this any longer ,,,, If your supposed boyfriend felt about you the way he should then he'd insist that you be with him and not give you cause for concern,,,,, You don't have a relationship with this jerk ,,,, What you are to him right now is stop gap or some one he can always fall back on when the action gets boring ,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting and the participants should want to be with each other as much as they can ,,,, there are allot of fish in the pond ,,,,, You don't need this crap ,,,,,, You don't deserve it either ,,,,, You need to go fishing and find someone that is fun and exciting to be with and will treat you the way he should ,,,,, They are out there ,,,,, all you need to do is find one ,,,,, Stop letting this guy make a fool of you ,,,, You need to drop him like a hot rock ,,,,, Tell him he's free to do what he wants ,,,,, and stick to your guns ,,,,, don't let him come back ,,,,, Your relationship was over when he started his crap for what ever reason ,,,, Guys are good actors too you know ,,,, up to and including tears ,,,,, So don't let him fool you ,,,, There's no telling what he's been doing or who he's been with or what he's been doing with them or what he may or maynot have picked up ,,,, You have a health concern here too if you are sexually active with him ,,,, They have diseases that they don't even have names for yet let alone a cure for them ,,,,, Start fresh with someone else that's fun and exciting to be with ,,,, put this guy in your past ,,,,, He's a lesson learned for future reference ,,,,, Sounds like he's looking for some one else anyway and when he finds her he's going to drop you like that hot rock I mentioned earlier ,,,,, It's important to you that you be the one to drop him first ,,,,, This guy needs very much to be put in his place and you have the perfect opportunity to do it ,,,, Good luck with this ,,,, Yoda told you this
2007-01-03 00:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably over reacting but keep an eye on this, I agree that perhaps he didn't know that other girls were gonna be there, or perhaps he just wanted some time apart from you, after all you don't have to do everything together.
I agree you should let it go this time but tell him how you feel, there is probably a good explanation. If you don't trust him, do you think you should still be together?
Also put yourself into his shoes and try and see if there is a reason why he may not have told you... other than hooking up with another girl
2007-01-02 23:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty Kat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be annoyed aswell- but to be honest men really don't think about what they are doing..
I would invite myself along when they all go out next-show the guys what a great/cool girlfriend you are, you then have a chance to check out the competition- you may even make friend with a few of the girls!!!
2007-01-02 23:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by money bank 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to be more involved with him and his mates, don't wait to be asked, just ask if you can go with them when they go out. He might want to go out just with his mates sometimes, but maybe he doesn't know you'd like to go too, so ask!
As for the lift home, you have to be able to trust him around other women or else its not gonna work out. If you feel uncomfortable about it try talking to him when you get some time alone. Or talk it over with a friend you trust, that often puts things in perspective.
2007-01-02 23:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say it was a bit weird that you wasnt invited out and if he never had anything to hide then why didnt he tell you straight away this girl gave him a lift home? I dont think your over reacting at all.
2007-01-02 23:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its not good that he didnt invite you or the fact that he didnt have the courtesy to let you know you didnt need to give him a lift
talk to him and say that you would like to meet the rest of the group.
if he has nothing to hide then he will be more than happy to introduce you.
if he goe all funny about it then maybe he has something to hide.....
either way you need to have a proper chat with him.
i wouldnt be impressed with the situation either.
it certainly doesnt sound like a lads nite out as it seemed to be all couples
2007-01-03 00:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he should have had called you in the first place, maybe he did something stupid. hey, were talking new years eve celebration here so, this must be a festive for both of you. for sure, he's acting innocent now as if he did nothing wrong. its a girls instinct you can feel if you smell somethings going on, its up to you to decide.
2007-01-02 23:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your bf didn't no the girls were meeting up with his friends. It was only one time so I would let it go this time but if the same thing happens over and over again then I would talk to ur bf. Let it go this time. good luck
2007-01-02 23:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by arlcarb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋