I was with this guy for 8 months, but we recently broke up because of distance. I offered to go over and live there for a while, but nothing came of the suggestion, as i was already to late in making it (but wanted to try anyway). I know he likes me a lot, as he was always telling me how lucky he was to know me, how much everything i said enchanted him, that he liked me for me and how much he missed me and wanted me to be near him, why couldn't i live there etc...plus he could remember everything i ever said to him and was always the first to say any endearments. We also both felt a connection to eachother the first time we met, (he said he would come and find me wherever i was, whether i was married, had children etc, that he would come for me.) But now it's over he won't say goodbye, even though i've asked and said that hearing those words would help me get some closier and move on, he just won't say anything to me anymore.
2007-01-02 21:17:07 · 22 answers · asked by nightsky_eire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he's not breaking up with you because he doesn't love you. He probably still has feelings for you and he doesn't want to say "goodbye" because that would finalize the end of your relationship. He doesn't want to let you go, and it hurts him that he cannot be with you because of circumstance (the distance).
If you really love him, perhaps you can try working through the long-distance relationship. But if you really want to try to move on, it's best to let go of the past and accept the fact that you might never hear the words that you want to hear. What I'm trying to say is that you need to find closure on your own. And who knows, maybe there will be a chance for you guys to reunite in the future, but don't let one word from him prevent you from moving on and living your life.
2007-01-02 21:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't always do what we need them to do, or want them to do. Maybe you cared more than he did? Maybe he doesn't want or care to say bye. Maybe he's torturing you by not saying goodbye and he knows it? Maybe he's full of shi* ? Who knows but the mere fact that he refuses to give you the closure that you are seeking. Should only strengthen you and propel you forward in life. Take this as a lesson learned, some guys know all the right things to say, to get into our heads and then when it's over we don't know how to get them out! And there moving on, If he says it or not, you don't need his validation to move on, you are a strong person you will survive even if he never Say's goodbye!
2007-01-03 05:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sha T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he was as in love with you as it sounds then his heart has practically been torn out of his rib cage!
It's hard to move on from someone you feel so close to, it sounds like you had the same sort of love me and my gf have and i'll tell ya, if she left me i would be destroyed, she is my world!
She is over 500 miles away from me for half the year and we are still strong as ever, don't give up on a good thing because of the distance
TBH i don't blame him for wanting to say goodbye because it sounds so final and he dosen't want to loose you.
2007-01-03 05:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what u are talking about as i was somehow in the same situation
he is one of the people which are closing themselfes and there is no way to break into this wall , its their selfprotection and sometimes they become cold sweat as they are afraid
best is to let him alone and move on , i am sure that he will get in touch with u after time but i dont know if it is a good thing to be there for him .....
i wish u all the best !
2007-01-03 05:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by athina68 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is true love my dear girl
happens very rarely and when it does u grab it with both hands
there may have been circumstances like u mentioned as distance
but that shouldnt hinder things
why he wont say anything now is cos he is a bit unsure if you would accept him back
its very simple and obvious
the guy loves you truly
dont let the opportunity pass u by
2007-01-03 05:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by piscean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is doing it on purpose, he knows he can keep you dangling like a puppet. He is making a as* out of you. Stop making excuse, wanting to hear the word goodbye, this is stupid. If he wanted you there for real, you would be there. Get wise, and stop whinning. Move on.
2007-01-03 05:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he just can't take it the sorrow and agony to say goodbye is hard for some people just give him some space and time he'll come out of his shell.
2007-01-03 05:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a relationship with distance is always difficult. have my own expierience with that. Fact is that u have to know what u want and what u believe in. And when u know, u will find a way. Good luck
2007-01-03 05:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont say goodbye either b/c he's still in love with u but not sure of it.. or b/c he did something bad & have a conciouss pain which stops him from saying goodbye!!just move away & u'll c his next step!!
2007-01-03 05:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You now have to be blunt. Let him know that there is no point in communicating any further as any more than friends - if that if he doesn't react.
It hurts but you both need to move on.
2007-01-03 05:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by wingmanblu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋