Marriage is not a game.?

Question

i think that marriage is really fun and romatic forever but i found out that marraige is not a game? why is marriage not a game? i am 24 years old to want to be married how do i know that man is serious, nice and funny man to be my husband forever???

many divorces,separates and false couples are not good. i am afraid to get married because of these problems. how will i do it?

thanks

Answer 1

Marriage is not to be taken lightly, it isn't a game. At the same time it's not serious all the time either. I married a man who is my best friend (17 years and counting) We can communicate and talk about anything that is key, many relationships end over communication problems. Lack of communication or not understanding your partners wants and needs lead to resentment. You also need to grow together instead of growing apart, taking time to have fun go on dates and spend time with eachother even after your married. So many people think that should end when you get married. But that leads to boredom. It's important to spend time together having fun. If you can't talk to your partner about everything then you shouldn't get married.

So many people think marriage isn't work that it will all come easily and that just isn't true.

Premarital counseling is very important, it helps you get to know eachother in ways you might not without it. You find out more about yourself and your partner. It helps you know what to do if certain situations arise and how someone feels about things that might not come up during dating.

Answer 2

Marriage isn't a game. Marriage is about commitment. Think about it this way. Pretend divorce did not exist. Divorce was never an option.
Marriage would then be about finding someone you're willing to spend you're entire life with, go through ups and downs with, family, friends, money, sex, ONLY HIM or HER. The whole damn thing with only him or her.
That's what marriage should be about. It's a commitment and it should be taken seriously, without the idea of divorce to soothe this decision into becoming easy.

Just make sure you're in love when you choose your partner. And more than that, make sure your love will last. Not the romance, not the sex, not that whatever else passionate thing that keeps you running. Just the love. You know the love. It's the one that'll actually keep you both withstanding one another years from now.

Answer 3

You have to make sure that the man or woman you want to marry is just as serious about the relationship as you are. A marriage takes work. You have to be able to deal with imperfection and mistakes. Don't hold grudges and be prepared to work through anything, even cheating. Most people are not serious enough about a person to work through those kinds of problems. If you get married, there will be times when the person you love hurts you, it is part of life. So if you can honestly say that you and the person you love are prepared to deal with all the turmoil life can throw at you, then you are ready to get married.

Answer 4

Most people will simply tell you to never get married because marriage is stupid. I think you should "marry", or have a "life lasting commitment", what ever you want to call it, just don't rely on the piece of paper that comes with marriage. It's not about the paper, it's not about political prenups, and it's not about a pysco-ward-jail-like insitution like most will say. It's suppose to simply be a life long love/connection between two people because they truly feel it.

You will know your guy isn't playing games when you truly feel that.

Answer 5

marriage is not a game u r right
it needs commitment at times blind and trusting commitment
it takes a lot to be together
it may takes seconds to destroy
but marriage is a beauiful bond
yes how do you know you are ready is by questioning your self if you are ready to accept the responsibility in the relation and survive and make the grade
nothing can replace the honor respect and honesty that should be available in a marriage
very simply put
think positive and keep being positive
god bless you

Answer 6

i was a widow who had been married to a very good man for 15 years and with whom i had a very happy marriage. after he passed away, i was alone for sometime until i met my husband with whom i have been married to for almost 4 years. he is a wonderful man, my best friend, my soul mate and the best thing that ever happened to me for a long time. his children and my children all get along fine and we have a big wonderful family together.

i have been blessed by God to have met two of the best and finest men that have ever existed in this world. when the Lord decided to take my first husband to heaven, He sent me the man i am sharing my life with now and, if the Lord wills it, with whom i would like to spend the rest of my life with... "insha-allah"

if i had been blessed to have met two wonderful husbands in my lifetime, then have faith and believe that one day your turn will come when you least expect it and are not looking for him... he will come.

Answer 7

Be very careful who you choose, i was with a guy for 4 years, we spent a lot of time togther, but in the 5th year that we got married, he totally chnaged, that made me believe that i never really knew him

Answer 8

because a lot of people take things for granted after they get married.

Answer 9

nothing is invincible....when i got married i thought it was forever.....everything is a gamble..u just have to believe and do what u feel is right for you

Answer 10

Try to find one who is of character. If you are Christian, perhaps you'll find him in a church.