mother lives with us is suffering from dementia any others>?

Question

my mother in law and father in law moved in with us.We sold our home to buy a bigger one with a in law suite below us.Dad died a yr ago and she is driving me nuts.She started with dementia and is bored and wont do anything but eat,watch tv,complain,and sit in the bathroom.I do everything for her but with her condition she doesnt have much good to say.They have to much time to think.I tried activities,and senior center she will not go.I wish she would die sometimes.Please forgive me for that but I feel stuck and this care giver role is mentally hard on me,,Any other like this>please advise...thanks

Answer 1

I know what you mean g/f i use to work with people like that, I
also worked with the ones that have alzheimer they go from
dementia to alzheimer and it is very hard work, Dementia is bad but when alzheimer sets in you have to also look out for your health and well being, sometimes they will fight you, throw things,put on layers of clothes,it is terrible, i got hit with so many walking sticks it wasn't funny, try to get her Dr to give her a med that slows Alzheimer down i can't think of the name of it but it helps,if she gets the meds before it really sets in it would be great. good luck and God bless

Answer 2

I rent a room from a woman who keeps telling me the same stuff like she does not remember already telling me it and its for the biggest part negative stuff. She mostly just lays in the bed and watches TV. Her own family does not want to deal with it so dont come around as much as they can avoid it. And alwayse sick. Then my dad repeats the same things alot too and even says things that never happened and is alwayse saying Im in great shape for a man my age and can beat most the young guys.Its terribly hard. I feel for you.

Answer 3

I have dealt with similar situations..I think you need help. I'm also not sure if she should be left alone. My mother couldn't be trusted not to turn on the stove/turn on a tap and remember that she had done it...It was just too dangerous to have her continue living with us..It's difficult and I sympathize with you. Maybe you should see your doctor and discuss this with him. Maybe he can help and maybe he has options that you don't know about.