my sister just told me she was molested by my cousin 4 years ago. he came to the us to visit us...thats why she thought she had to tell me. He is gone now but might be moving close to us soon. even though its 3am can anyone help me...what do i tell her.(tomarrow we decided to tell our parents)
2007-01-02 20:07:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he just got married a week ago. and is close to the family
2007-01-02 20:10:18 · update #1
me and my sis are teenagers and he is in his 30's. i already told her that we have to done something about it becuase if isee his face i WILLKILLHIM
2007-01-02 20:12:19 · update #2
my sister is not one of those ppl that lie. She should never lie about stuff like this. When she was crying i cuold tell that shes honest. A persons eyes dont lie.
2007-01-02 20:16:28 · update #3
im one of those people that knowthe answers to everyhing and always knows what to do. I have never been this scared inmy life. I just dont know what to do. My legs are shaking even as i write this. I just told her to write everything down on a piece of paper and we will give it to my parents in the morning. and i made a clean bed for her. should i do anything else
2007-01-02 20:19:08 · update #4
im her brother (1 year younger than her)
2007-01-02 20:20:50 · update #5
Tell you parents and get them to alert the cops about this right away. If this cousin of yours has done that to your sister, he could be doing it to other teens as well. You want to do the responsible thing and tell your parents. I am a victim of child molestation, and because I hadn't confided in someone then, it has made me feel ashamed of myself for years and years, thinking it's all my fault. You don't want your sister to feel this way. Think about the people in the media who have saved other people's lives by doing the right thing. Teri Hatcher of "Desperate Housewives" saved a girl's life by exposing her own uncle to the police, the same man who sexually abused her when she was a child. Please do the right thing.
2007-01-02 22:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling your parents is the right thing to do, and because
it took place 4yrs ago going to the police will have no
effect on on the molester because of the length of time
it took place. The important thing to remember is when a
person molestes you menatlly or physically report that
person immediately to the proper authorities so that
swift action can be taken against that person. Since you
say your cousin will probably move close to you , your
parents need to have a talk with him and let him know
that they will not tolerate anymore of his illicit actions
towards you or anyone else in the family and that might
make him decide not to move close to you all.
2007-01-03 04:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can tell her other than letting her know that you will be there for her. Offer her a shoulder to cry and lean on and most importantly a lending ear without judgement. Telling your parents is a wonderful idea. I am sorry such a thing happened to her. If it doens't kill you, it makes you stronger. I would tell her to perhaps report this. I mean it will be hard to prove because she didn't do it right away, but she can atleast try to prevent this sort of thing from happening to another girl...possibly you. Good Luck and hang in there. I'm sorry to hear that there's a sick-o around the two of you.
2007-01-03 04:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dame that is a questiont that can get somebody in trouble or even physicaly hurt. the best thing is make it a legal issue so it does'nt turn into some mob rule where more than one person could be going to jail. go to the police and make sure you tell the sainer of the two parents, cause I know there parents that would hurt the person that did this. So be brave and do the right thing.
2007-01-03 04:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by nycballin79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might should go tell your parents now this is a serious issue you dont say how old you are but if you are not 18 yet and still are in high school tell your parents now so they can get your family help to work through your sister being molested
2007-01-03 04:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by gruntlover101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents first. Maybe you might want to go to the police, or just stay away from the guy. Maybe tell his parents (I'm assuming all three of you are younger and living with your parents). Your parents should be able help more with your question.
2007-01-03 04:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by The Stig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell your parents! She's going to need some counseling or therapy in the near future. Be sure to comfort her and be there for her. I would avoid any and all contact between her and the cousin for now.
2007-01-03 04:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister that it's not her fault and that she did nothing wrong. After you tell your parents she might think about getting some counseling. Let her know that she is loved and safe now and be there to listen when she needs you.
2007-01-03 04:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Kalenamaui 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a GREAT brother!! you are doing all the right things. telling your parents is going to be hard especially for your sister, just continue to support her to get her through. you also need to contact your local police department so that justice can be served and this criminal is kept from hurting anyone else. i am very proud of you and your sister for being so brave!
2007-01-03 04:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you are there for her and it is a GREAT idea that you are telling your parents. It is important that she know at this time that she has people who love her and support her. It also may be a good idea to get her into some counseling as well.
2007-01-03 04:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by ashleighshea1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋