I was just wondering how any of you feel as an adopted child? Are you happy and fully content about it? Do you still feel the same connection with yoru family? Or do you feel completely abandoned by your biological parents?
P.S. I don't mean to be offensive at all about this topic- I was just curious. So my apologies if you are! =) Thanks for your input.
2007-01-02 19:49:51 · 8 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My older bro, myself and younger sister are all adopted from different biological parents. We were all raised from an early age as siblings, and that is what we are.
I don't feel abandoned by my birthmom.....she was only 16 at the time. When I was adopted, my dad already had his Ph.D in statistics.
Who do you think the better provider would have been......my dad or a welfare case?
2007-01-03 09:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by sjohnsontx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am now an adult, but I was adopted as an infant. It's not something I think about all that often. I usually just think of my family as my family, not as my "adoptive family." I've been very blessed to have wonderful, loving parents and a great family. I believe that I do have the same connection with my family as biological children. However, having been always adopted, I really have no basis for comparison. But, yes, I do feel close to my family, and loved. I really don't feel any different because of being adopted.
Do I feel completely abandoned by my biological parents? No. On the contrary. My biological mother had me when she was still in high school. She apparently didn't feel she could give me a very good life. I feel so thankful and grateful to her for giving me life and giving me a chance at a good life. Being a parent now, myself, I cannot imagine how much selflessness and love it takes to give your baby up for adoption when you think it is best for him or her. I'm sure I couldn't do it.
This is my personal experience. As a side note: I don't mean to imply that I think young parents cannot be good parents. They can, and many are.
2007-01-04 02:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tina, I like totally agree with you and how you feel right now. I am adopted as well and have also been experiencing a rather difficult time with it myself. I was adopted when I was just six years old due to child abuse and neglect and was taken from my family and my siblings as well. For years I have dwelt upon my being adopted and really didn't understand why it happened to me and my siblings. I look at other children with their natural parents and just get so upset. Sure God blessed me with another family for all these years, but you and I both know that it's not the same cause deep down you will always feel like there is something missing, an empty void or a dark whole waiting anxiously to be filled and no matter how hard they try to make you fit in and be a part of their family, you on the other hand still feel like you will be rejected and that you will never fit in. Well Tina, I'm 26 today and still feel the same as you. I have been searching for my natural parents for years as well as my other siblings, so I know how tough this is on you and I also can relate as to how you feel cause that's where I'm at. Look at it from this stand point Tina, God gave you a wonderful gift, listen a wonderful gift. He gave you a family so that you could live and experience the joy of having a family that most children today still long for and would do anything to be adopted. Tina, please don't go through life as I did living with hate, anger, and bitterness because you were adopted because if you do that, life will just pass you own by and soon you will be my age and wonder what happened all those years ago. Please don't be mad or disappointed with God, with yourself, with your natural parents or your family you have now. Instead rejoice and be glad you have a family, someone to call "mom" and "dad." Ask yourself this trivia question: Where would I be if it weren't for them adopting me? That is the same exact question I ask myself nearly everyday and it's what you have to do. Listen if it helps you feel any better, do as I am doing right now and write a book about it or seek immediate councel before it literally eats you away like an unstopable, undescribable force. Good luck Tina!!! God bless you and keep you...
2007-01-03 04:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by chris a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is adopted and I have a open relationship with the adoptive parents and I am actively involved in her everyday life, however not all adoptions can be "open". She has the best of both worlds and isn't missing out on anything. LOL
2007-01-03 04:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was adopted at 4 months old and loved my family , I was treated like I was there from birth. But, my Mum died when I was 13. I found my birth family about 12 years ago and I do feel closeness at heart with my Mom and them but, they will never replace my adoptive family that raised me. My birth sister and I see how much we missed out on and try to catch up.
2007-01-03 10:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by alright 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not adopted but I have a daughter in law who is and she is well adjusted and connected to her adoptive family.
I think adoption is a wonderful choice for both children and adoptive parents. Nobody should feel anything negative about either adopting or being adopted.
2007-01-03 03:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
adopting a child is wonderful! . .everyone need a parent to love and look after them
2007-01-03 04:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4ever been keep in d dark by foster parents.
2007-01-03 04:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋