On Friday of last week, our Golden Retriever called Honey was put to sleep after her kidneys were failing. Our vet told us that if she was a human being she would be on a dialysis machine.
She had not eaten since Christmas Day and was just wanting to drink water but then be sick. She may have lasted another week but we could not stand to see her suffering so much. On Thursday after we received the news. I sat up with her all night and told her how much I loved her she kept looking at me and giving me a paw. When the time came to say goodbye it was awful. I am truly heartbroken and cannot stop crying. Unfortanately we don't have children but I honestly feel that I have lost a child. Is this sad or am I overreacting. Has anyone else lost a dog through Kidney problems is there something we should have picked up on early and could have saved her. I just don't know why this has happened. She turned 9 on Boxing day which is not old for her bless her.
Please reply and help me
2007-01-02 19:41:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
My heart bleeds for you. The hardest thing on Earth to do is to euthanize a beloved pet. The next few days/weeks/months will be a struggle for you.
Then you will start remembering all the wonderful times you had with Honey. All the joy you shared instead of the last hard days.
And you will again smile at the thought of Honey. And somewhere by the Rainbow Bridge, Honey will relax, knowing that you have accepted her passing. And she will patiently, happily wait for you there. (Type in Rainbow Bridge on any search engine if you don't know what I'm talking about here.)
No, you aren't overreacting. You have lost a beloved friend, a loving family member. Grief is normal.
Once you are starting to get past the trauma, you might consider doing something in Honey's name. Donate money to a Rescue group, a local animal shelter.
2007-01-02 19:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lori R 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I really feel for you sweetheart. I have never lost a dog but i can imagine what your going through as i have had to part with a dog before. And the pain is really hard. My mum gave my Jack Russel up in August last year. We had her for 3 years and she had become my best friend. We where like soulmates. But my mum decided to take her back to the dogs home where we got her because i started going out with friends and wasn't around as much. We could of kept her and we should of, but i was powerless to her disition. Anyway i haven't got over it. I cry most days and i ALWAYS think about her. I miss her incredibly.
I suppose the best thing to do is just think about how much happiness you brought into her life.
And that you did the right thing putting her to sleep, she can finally rest now. She may be out of sight but not out of mind, and am sure her spirit is more than alive!
Try make a little memorian for her, and when your feeling down go to that place and talk to her. I know this may sound silly but it should help. Tresure the photographs and the memories, they will always be there.
I hope things turn out better for you darlin'.
All my love. x
2007-01-05 02:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not overreacting. Losing any dog is sad but losing one at a relatively early age is even worse. I lost my 8 yr old last year & the shock of it was terrible. You did the last kind thing you could for her. You will get over it eventually & start remembering the happy times you had with her. There's nothing wrong in grieving for her and anyone who has lost a dog knows what you are going through. Just remember what a lucky dog she was. She had a kind loving home for life and that is all any dog wants.
xxx
2007-01-03 01:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by anwen55 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sooo sorry to hear of your loss. I too lost our precious Chaos on 12/27/06 due to kidney failure. I had a stomach virus and couldn't even go to the vet to say good-bye. I have been sooo heart broken, I don't know what to do. I am crying now. He was only a little bit over 2 years old. It happened so suddenly I didn't prepare for it. So you have every right to grieve for your Honey. I have a 12 year old and 8 month old and it still hurts as if one of my family members passed. I thought I was getting better but I came in today to find Chaos's box of ashes sitting in my kitchen. I do wish you peace but as I know it will take time. I don't have much support so I just opened a bottle of wine and hope to just relieve some of the pain. amrose34@aol.com
2007-01-04 14:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Angela W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very painful thing to happen. I had to put down a dog (Spots) i was fostering because of a kidney and a liver failure.
Once your dog completes 6 to 7 years of age, it is advisable you have an annual check up done that includes a blood test as well to rule out any organ malfunction indications. I normally get that done for my dog. But once the kidneys have failed, there is nothing much you can do but put them down and relieve them of the pain. Else it progresses in to other organs failing as well and the toxins get into the blood stream and cause ulcers all over the body. Sometimes their backs collapse too.
So just carry Honey's fond memories with you. You have done the right thing by giving her a painless farewell.
2007-01-02 21:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Druidess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not overreacting, people that have never had a dog cant understand the grief you go thru, its exactly like losing family. We lost Bob(border collie) in 1999 he was 19 and still every now and then we have a sad crying moment thinking about the fun times and joy he gave us.Dont blame yourself, you did all that you could, you loved her for 9 years and did the right thing at the end to stop her suffering. Our thoughts are with you at this terrible time.
2007-01-02 20:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't alone. Your Honey is truly better off now and the pain lessens with time. You aren't overreacting at all. A dog can become a true family member. When we lost our Katie I cried so much that people acted like I was crazy, they didn't understand. I had to miss work, couldn't function right for days. You did the best thing you could have done. Read the Rainbow Bridge poem, it can be found on the internet if you dont have it. You will see her again someday.
2007-01-02 19:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by MeanKitty 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. I am grieving with you. I have just said good by to my 15yr old Rough Collie on New Years Eve 2006. She suffered a fit and we think a small stroke. This was the third loss in three years, Granddaughter, Grandmother and now Mother. They are now a family again. Time does heal and there are times the tears still flow. I still have one of 11yrs with a bladder tumour we hope is in recession, we can only hope it remains so. Only the true animal lover will understand how you feel, don't be ashamed to shed a tear it shows how much you cared. God bless.
2007-01-04 10:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss -- it makes me want to cry to hear about it. You are just grieving like anyone would after a loved one has died. I hope you know you did the right thing by euthanizing Honey. It sounded like she didn't have long and if she couldn't eat and was sick, she was probably more miserable than you could know. Animals usually try to hide their illness by instinct. Bless you and your family. You'll feel better in time and remember the good times you had with her.
2007-01-02 20:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by steph c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel really sorry for you, a friend of mine went through a similar thing with her Cavalier King Charles, who died of kidney failure at the age of 5. It is not sad and you are not overreacting as your dogs are part of the family too, and as you would mourn the death of a family member, you should do the same with your dog.
maybe when you are ready you might consider getting another dog. it is something to think about... hope this helps.
2007-01-02 19:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋