i mean is it necessarry for them to fall inlove first with the girl before they will court her? what is in man's mind when they are already in a relationship?
2007-01-02 19:25:06 · 12 answers · asked by rain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I usually fall in love when I don't want to. Either I was recently hurt by another female, or when I want to stay single and enjoy life. Love just kinda sneaks up on you and kicks you square in the nuts.
2007-01-02 19:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way this question makes sense is if you define 'court" as simply entering a serious relationship. Usually I define courting as the whole process, the whole dance men and women do when they re interested. Usually you start the flirting then if it works add the dating etc. The courting that starts when your minorly interested and well, ends when you not interested, you split up or when you eventually form a partnership.I see it all as one continuous process and a two way process at that. However your question wouldn't make alot of sense in that context since your clearly referring to something specific and something that happens after you know each other. It would help if you better defined 'inlove'. Do you mean like instantly falling for someone, possibly how you are when you meet and are attracted ? Or else do you mean more along the line of telling someone that you love them or really truly being in love with someone?.. I suspect you referring more to the latter. I know some guys wait till their in love to go a serious relationship, but i suppose some will just jump into one barely knowing the other person just to be in one. This is a really hard question to answer. There's no exact answer, especially one that will cover every guy, or all the time.
Why do women thing men are confusing? Were simple. Have women eve figured out women yet?
2007-01-02 20:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by mteach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand your question. I'm not sure you know what you are talking about. Why are you judging men? Have you ever looked to a female and saw how some of them treat men? I'm in love and it was easy, as far as i know it was the same for anyone else that is truly in love. One day i was just asked, "Do you love her?" and i thought about it and decided i did, nothing changes at that moment, it's a growing proccess. Same as friendship grows or hatreds grow. Love is like a grand extension onto friendship, if there is no friendship there will be no real love. This could have been what you were lacking. Then again maybe this was just a vauge question and not related to you at all, in that case, i apologize if i offended. But we are all human beings as a whole, don't be sexist and discriminate because your genitalia is different.
2007-01-02 19:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by Roy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. It is necessary for me to fall in love first with the girl before they will court her. But most of the tI'me, we (guys) don't wait to fall in love with her.
Personally, i don't have to wait to fall in love with her first. If i like her, and I'm free (im mean, no attachment) i will court her. What's in in man's mind when he is in love varies according to his age.. like if a man is in his twenties his think a lot more different than when he is in his teens. He is more serious about relationship. forward thinking, like deeper commitment and marriage.
2007-01-02 19:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Glorified 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds are he`s lookig for something he`s not getting with the girl that he`s in the relationship with(he may love this girl but feels a void). Love may not be the issue here its lust.
2007-01-02 19:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, a guy generally falls in love initially with his eyes. Guys are generally wired to lust before they love. Of course, some men are intrigued with a good personality and intellect, but the sexual attraction factor is what motivates them, regardless of the stimuli. Some men fall head over heels with an intellectual early on, but usually only because it appeals to them sexually.
A guy doesn't need to be in love to date, he needs to be intrigued and want to know more. There has to be something that draws him in. Something he feels he can't get from anyone else.
Men want to know that they have the best woman they can possibly have. They want to be proud of her, and share a connection they can't get with anyone else. Most men want a woman who knows what she wants, and is happy with who she is. If they are looking for long-term, they want someone who will make them a better man.
2007-01-02 19:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no unique answer to this sort of question. I myself thought that one should be in relation before marriage but my first relation led to marriage. And you as the woman (or man) can find this out when you are in relation.
(If not clear, ask)
2007-01-02 19:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by Majid S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way a girl does. Sex is on their mind.
2007-01-02 19:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unexpectedly.It's like a midget sneaking up and kicking you in the nuts....you just don't see it coming!!!
2007-01-02 19:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bootsy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont ask me lol im still trying to figure theses guys out x x
2007-01-02 19:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋