my boyfriend of two and a half years has failed to pop the big question and am tired of waiting.we had agreed on it earliar but he keeps eluding. To stop exerting pressure on him, i have decided to go study abroad for a year or to get pregnant so that he may reanalyse this relationship and sort out his priorities. Is this the right way to go?
2007-01-02 19:21:57 · 12 answers · asked by sheila ejiwm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you pop the question to him? As a guy, I don't understand why women can't do that. I mean it's 2007.
2007-01-02 19:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by john 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You don't want to force the marriage thing. If he isn't ready, and you pressure him, it won't be genuine. He may also begin to resent you if the relationship turns a bit saur. Getting pregnant isn't the answer neither. If he doesn't end up asking and something happens to where the two of you are no longer together...Where exactly would that leave the child. You don't want to use a baby as a pawn in this situation. I think your best bet is this... if after 2 and half years and no question, perhaps talk to him again. If it doesn't work, then i would suggest moving on. Why sell yourself short. You deserve better and shouldn't have to chase after him for something that should come natural after all this time. Good Luck and remember that if he doesn't come around there are many other guys out there that would more than likely appreciate you and without hesitation propose.
2007-01-02 19:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting pregnant is never a way to go. You may feel like you're trapping this guy, but thats not necessarily true. He can just as likely feel the same way and still want to wait to get married and continue taking care of his child. Just don't pressure him. I have been dating the same guy on/off for more than 3 years and he hasn't asked me yet for my hand in marriage. I've had a promise ring & i really liked that gesture. But just stay focused on what you need to do & when he feels he is ready and you're ready then he will pop the question.
2007-01-02 19:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by ms ambitious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeez Louise!!!
What's up with that? What's the rush? I know, how about you pop the question? Distancing yourself from him by studying abroad won't help because it will open up opportunities for mischief. Getting pregnant????? Why don't you take one step at a time and see if he really is interested in marrying you? Trying to lock him in by getting pregnant is nasty. Getting pregnant should be set for when you are both ready.
I say rethink your priorities.
All the best.
2007-01-02 19:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!, you should definitely "NOT" make a baby in hopes that doing so will help your relationship(it would probably make things worse and place more pressure on him, so bad idea). You need to realize that everyone has rights to make decisions for his/her self.You need to make up your mind what you want in a relationship, and set consequences as to what you will do if your not receiving the response you desire. I don't think getting away for a year is the answer. You need to decide if you are willing to tolerate this guys procrastination.
2007-01-02 19:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by Zacklee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...i don't think getting pregnant is the right way! I think you should talk to him openly and if he think he is not prepared them you can go to study abroad if you want to....getting pregnant is not going to resolve anything...it will make things get worst, specialy for you, in case he doesn´t accept to get married even if you're pregnant. Do you think he is really prepared for the big step? If he is but is not taking a position...think twice...maybe he is not the best for you....maybe he doesn't deserve you...I don't know what to say but one thing is true...if you get pregnant to make him stay with you....you can get hurt....Please find another way, do not get pregnant for this. Wish you the best, good luck
2007-01-02 19:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go study abroad! A truly great idea. Go learn and grow. Do not bring an innocent child into this picture as an entrapment or even an enticement.
2007-01-02 19:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by river 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go study abroad!! If he is not going to commit to you getting pregnant might only mean that you are a single mother having to support a child on your own. You may even find someone there and not want to return home!!
2007-01-02 19:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it will not work to trick someone..the 2 things you mentioned are totally different, why would you concider the pregnant..No baby ever kept anyone together..ask all the single parents out there...why would you want to marry someone that doesn't seem to want to marry you...It will not work if you have to pressure him into it...take my advice and see if you want to remain in the relationship or maybe take a breather...
2007-01-02 19:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get pregnant just to get him to stay with you.. i think you should respect him and take it slow until he is ready to move forward. you dont want to force someone to marry you becaus ethat always ends bad. if you feel like he is ready to pop the ques, and he is just not doing it why dont you ask him? just a suggestion. hope this helps.
2007-01-02 19:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋