Ok me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 month now, we really love each other deeply but lately she has been getting upset at me for small things, and shes really afraid of me hurting her, because of her past relationships, and now she thinks im going to cheat on her with my best friend cuz i was just saying i miss her( i havnt talked to her in years). Am a treating her bad? Or is she just paranoid from her recent relasionship with some guy who cheated on her?
2007-01-02 18:49:10 · 16 answers · asked by mtlmstbhevy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she hung up with me and went to sleep after this, what should i do when she wakes up or now?
2007-01-02 19:17:52 · update #1
I'm saying she is really paranoid, i bet she has some bad commitment issues that she has to deal with. She shouldn't be paranoid about you cheating on her with your BEST FRIEND. epically since you haven't seen her in years. saying you miss your best friend doesn't mean that you want to go cheat on girlfriend with her.... she has some maturing to do i think. talk to her about it, if you haven't already.
2007-01-02 18:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is insecure from the hurt she has encountered through her past relationships. She probably still has unhealed wounds from the men who have hurt her, and she is afraid you will do the same. What you can do is reassure her that you are not going to do such things her ex's have done and that you deeply love her. Call her a little more than you do alright, text her a simple "I love you" or "I miss you," to show her that you're thinking about her. Compliments on the way she looks or the way she expressed a thought also helps. She's still sensitive and hurt from the jerk who cheated on her, just show her you truly love and care for her.
2007-01-02 18:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by jas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that she's paranoid because of her past relationships. You need to sit her down, preferrably at a nice dinner date, candle on the table would be a nice setting, look into her eyes, and tell her you have no intentions of seriously hurting her. Ask her if the minor things that upset her are truly that damaging to your relationship. Reassure her you are you, and she needs to trust you, and not base her fears on the past. Tell her you are not perfect, and neither is she. That's why communication is the key to all relationships. Tell her she has the freedom to tell you anything that bothers her, and you want the same freedom to tell her the same things. Hold her hand more often and be sensitive to her needs. At the same time, she needs to become sensitive to your's. She's got to learn to trust you. It's OK to have friends of the opposite sex. It would be a drag not to talk to someone just because of their sex or whatever. If after all of this fails, you may have to tell her that she isn't ready to be in a relationship because of her doubts and fears. You can always be friends. Just keep it clean and try to avoid personal insults. I think you'll do OK.
2007-01-02 18:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you did nothing wrong. You treated her right, so i suggest that you just understand her because sometimes the girl feels a little bit insecure or paranoid or worried about a lot of things. Let her know that the other girl is your best friend. Communication will straighten things. Keep it up!
2007-01-02 18:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by ema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can go both ways. so dont push the issue. but you cannot help her with her own insecurities. if she cannot fully trust you and treat you as you are your own self, then maybe you should find another gf.
she has to respect you for you and try to let go of her past because you are not her ex bf.
also, you should watch what you say about your best friend that might make her think otherwise. enforce your feelings for her only and not anyone else, no matter how much of a bff they are to you.
2007-01-02 18:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you really love her, you can nourish her back to health. But if you ain't got time for babysitting, cut her loose and let her deal with her issues with a lic. therapist.
I was like her, I met a wonderful man full of love. WE are gonna be married 17 great years. I have learned to trust and be happy again.
If you have no patience..then it's best to let her go and let her find her way on her own. Or maybe someone out there will be there for her.
Depends on how you feel about her.
2007-01-02 18:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by jcsas_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her past experience has just made her more cautious. In any case, significant others always like to feel like the "special" one in the relationship, so when you mentioned your best friend she just got a tad bit jealous. I'm sure if you reassure her you meant no harm she'll be fine.
2007-01-02 18:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by cloudyskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women....
Hard to tell if you are mistreating her because you have not told everything, but some people are just insecure.
You might have made a boo boo by mentioning that you miss your ex.
You might want to reassure her that you and your ex used to be friends after you guys broke up and that you did not mean anything my mentioning it.
Treat her with kindness and if you love her treat her with love and tenderness. Be reassuring.
2007-01-02 18:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is paranoid and you will catch hell because of the stuff the other guy did to her. that could be the reason why the other guy cheated is because she bring too much baggage to a relationship. because what other guys has done to her.
2007-01-02 18:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's paranoid and still hurting from her last relationship. Quite frankly this relationship might be doomed.
2007-01-02 18:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋