i was dating this guy for about 3 years and well we have broken up before in the past for different reasons. and well we broke up again and this time i knew it wa final.. but i dont understand what to do an more i love this man with all my heart and soul he says that we are not going to get back together and that there are other guys out there better than him and that he will always love me but i dunno what to do we still refer to each other as papa and mama or as thats my gurl or thats my man not as friends he even told me that it bothers him that i say that he is my friend it bothers me just as much. we also still have sex and hold hands and cuddle and act like boyfriends and gurlfriends do. so thats were i get confuesed at we say weere not together but our actions say we are or that we should give this another try but it doesnt come of our mouths like that. i dunno how he can throw away a 3 year relatonship in such a short amount of time. what do i do help me plz
2007-01-02 18:33:42 · 14 answers · asked by Darlene M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You either are together or you're not.
It sounds like your boyfriend wants a "friendship with privileges."
Please don't buy into that scam! Tell him it's only fair to you both that you either commit to each other or move on. Have you ever heard if you love someone set them free? If they come back to you, they are yours - if not, you have lost nothing.
Stop simmering and get to cooking or get him out of the kitchen!
2007-01-02 18:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okie like this... If there is a third person involved in the breakoff, then sure there is a cheating. By giving sex ur nt innocent or by taking it, he is not to be blamed. We'll need to think of why thre is a breakoff in the first place..
on wat to do now, its a terrible confusing thing, and a day's events will make any suggestion worthless. Hence i can just suggest you both avoid sex for a while and see if he still feels the same and YOU FEEL the same.. in my experience most girls give sex just to MAINTAIN the relationship.. U think twice if there is any insecurity feeling on ur part , which makes u people closer. So Tatz it, if ur clear of these things, u might post us why this happen, and even how u wanna proceed..
Good Luck,
PeppR
2007-01-02 18:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by PeppR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to break up after a long term realtionship
but if youre breaking up, then break up.
if hes kind of manipulating you by still getting sex, then he's not the best guy out there
you dont HAVE to be "with someone".... and i suggest that when this is done, DONT get a rebound relationship.
im sorry you're hurting.
if you know its final though, then call him, tell him you know it's final, and ask that he work with both of you so it doesnt hurt either one of you any more than it allready has.
if he still keeps on, you know you did everything you could
2007-01-02 18:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by A Lorraine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to talk to him about it and tell him he needs to decide cuz friends with benefits suck! cuz u love him and u will see him with other girls and he will see u with other guys. and that will hurt u and him. unless yall get back together i would try to move on....cuz sometimes letting go is so hard but it is easier then holding onto something that isnt there! i mean it may be there but dont hold on if yall r just going to be friends with benefits. cuz in the end it will hurt. so just sit him down and talk to him about it! thats the best thing u can to. hope i helped
2007-01-02 18:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He totally cheated on you...move on. He is trying to push you away nicely because of his guilt. Take a hit. He doesn't want to be with you..but if you keep waving sex in his face..thats all you will get out of him.
Grow up!
2007-01-02 18:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-02 18:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lion S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is one of the toads that you will meet in life!! If he says you are broke up don't let him use you for sex at his convenience but move on to someone who is more interested in you as a person
2007-01-02 18:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same boat as you. mine was 7 years. and till now, we still at times, sleep together and kiss. but i keep telling myself to be harsher. otherwise, he would come back to you just to release himself. he needs you for the sex. and knowing you are weak and still loves him deeply, he will come back. just for the pleasure. you have to be strong. tell yourself to move on. don't let him make use of you
2007-01-02 18:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by band2212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me in this situation... thi swould start ot feel like just sex buddies and im here for u until someone else comes along ....but if it continues and there is noone else in eithier of ur lives than i would feel it is love just hasn't been stamped yet
2007-01-02 18:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by LORI36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk away ...move away take a train a plane a bus something anything but this is not healthy...why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? hes getting his cake and eating it to...
2007-01-02 18:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋