I have no self esteem....i basically offer sex to guys...What can I do?

Answer 1

hmmmm. spend a few months with me .

Answer 2

STOP immediately. That's not the way to build your self-esteem, but rather to lower it. A lot of esteem problems are situational, sometimes a change of place helps. Instead of dwelling and feeling self-pity though, get involved in many activities. Accomplishment can help to build self esteem, and often you make real friends that way.
I know it's hard to break a pattern, but you have to. You have so much more to offer than sex. And if a guy doesn't realize that, he's not worth your time. Because you are amazing, you just don't realize it yet, and maybe that's because you haven't found your outlet yet.
You better have been having safe sex! The worst thing to get right now is an STD.

Answer 3

You've accomplished the first step of self-examination. You admitted your problems. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself why you have a problem with self-esteem? Try to broaden your horizons. Try new things, learn new things. Make new friends. No one alive should feel as though they are the lowest creatures on the face of the earth. Maybe you should go to group therapy for sex addicts. You'll find others with similar problems as you and that should make it easier for you to work on your self-esteem issues. Stop offering sex to guys because you are not a piece of meat, plus you can catch a social disease and make things much worst for yourself. Try therapy. You can find such groups in the phone book or newspapers. Take charge of your life before it's too late. I think that's what you want to do!

Answer 4

Something I do. Observe what others that have what you want (self esteem) do. Sports, workout, art, school, self-betterment, read.

I call it "fake it till you make it". If you fill your life with beneficial moments, then the summation of these moments add up to fullfilled life.

I have had 5 partners in my life and everyone has an opinion of what is acceptable and not about sex. If you connect the sex with self esteem, then deal with it appropriately. If you like the sex and is not connected with self esteem for you, then deal with that way (stds & pregnancy).

Answer 5

is there any way you can move.
Once you have a reputation like this, it might be a bit hard to change it where you are (try asking a pedophile when was the last time...)
once people have certain perceptions, they are very hard to break. If you can move then you get to START over completely.
YOu could join a church group or volunteer organization or something else that makes you feel good.
Also, if possible maybe you could find/talk to your dad and examine that relationship for clues to why you are behaving this way.
The bottom line is that you are probably lookingfor love and or acceptance.
nothing wrong with that, but it would be great if you could find a more healthy substitue!

Answer 6

You are a smart girl. Your question indicates plenty of self-awareness. One can assume you are unhappy with the way you are conducting yourself.....then stop it!

Take a break from your current interaction with guys....any guys. Wherever you meet them.....school, bars or streetcorners......stop going there! Take extra planning to avoid the kind of guys you go with.

Next step: Take time to get to know yourself. You are a stranger to yoursself. What kind of music do YOU like?
Take in movies or television that you've missed because of your other activities. Pamper yourself. Spend a day at the library learning how other people live. Take your personal inventory and reinvent yourself.

Once you love yourself.....or even like yourself, you will realize that you can control and limit and be selective on who or what you spend your time doing.

You are a rare and valued human being. Find out for yourself!

Good Luck!

C-F

Answer 7

whoa...well I use to have that problem until I bump into some guys who really "dogged" me out. and believe me it's not worth all the trouble to realize you're worth more than a good time. trust me just start turning away from sex and wanting a man/boy to accept you. Once u start doing that you'll feel much better about yourself. and if a guy stops talking to you because you just want to be friends instead of "friends with benifits" than you don't need him in your life anyway. Rejection is direction. btw surround yourself with different ppl.
and another thing...do u believe in God...you should pray about your self esteem problem. b/c my prob use to be crazy and I just started praying about it. Pray for the strenght to change the things u can change about yourself and learn to accept the things you can't. thats what I did and I'm a better person for having faith in God. I still have a litte insecrurity but I'm better.

Answer 8

I do not think self esteem has anything to do with your problem. You need some counseling and sex education classes. STD, is just waiting for you, and your after it at 100 miles an hour. Get help now, your only ruining your own reputation.

Answer 9

Sweetie, my little sister was the same way. I don't know much about this but I just want you to know that I feel your pain and that you are loved. Set some limits for yourself gain more self esteem. Start small if you have to.

Answer 10

you have no self esteem BECAUSE you basically offer yourself to guys. Get some backbone, say no, and YOU will start to respect yourself!!!
When I was younger I went through a real wild phase, Believe me, you are just messing up your own head by this behavior. Respect yourself and then others will too.

Answer 11

quit offering sex to boys and start doing something to start building up your self esteem