To hyper, help!?

Question

My son will be 3 in a couple of days, but he seems to have more energy than most kids his age. What is the best way to calm him down and get him to behave (he has a severe listening problem)? Time out does not work, grounding him from his shows doesn't work, the corner doesn't work, taking away a favorite toy doesn't work. I've tried everything I can think of. Unfortunatley, even spanking. Someone help please!?

Answer 1

OK first you are not alone!!!
second with a bit of luck and positive parenting he could grow out of it!
I used too give my daughter camomile tea it is herbal and you can give it too them with Milk just make sure it wont burn him.. it used to help to calm her down just a little to be able to reason with her without "drugging" her! one thing i did find that worked was i used to make her playdough and we would have time together to play with it and if she mis behaved or did something reallly disctructive then i would take the playdough away and she wouldn't get it that day.
One thing that a friend told me was: as long as your child knows how to behave in public then its ok for then to let their hair down at home... Also try a strict routine, Once you have it sorted out and working the way you want you can make it less restrictive.

One last thing try "say it once then make it happen"
if you arn't in the position to make it happen then just don't say it!!
Its hard work but it is worth it and if you really feel like you are at your witts end see a doctor, if nothing else they can point you in the right direction. Good Luck... stay postive and try and stay patient :)

Answer 2

Maybe you can demonstrate positive reinforcement when he is good, and punishment when he is bad. Also remember as a parent you have to stay consistant. When you still reward him, and he is bad, then really there is no reason for him to change his behavior. I would stop trying to change him for the next couple of days, and see what YOU are doing wrong. Most of the time we as parents are doing something wrong, even when we think it couldn't be us. When he does good, reward him by taking him to the park, or a favorite restarurant, or have a sticker system...when he has 10 stickers he gets something really good, that he likes, and when he is bad, take stickers away...remember consistancy is the name of the game. Attention could be it to, give him times of the day that you are all his, no cooking, cleaning, maybe just read, or play with playdough, color, something like that. Sometimes childs what attention whether good or bad...they just want attention. When he starts acting bad stop what you are doing and give him 10 minutes of atten, and then continue what you where doing. That way if that works you saved time in the long run. Also this sounds stupid...but when you see he is starting up, start counting, and letting him know to calm down, and behave.

Answer 3

Make sure he gets outside time every day, no matter what, even just a hour it will make all the difference i know i have 5 very active children but punishing a child because they are bored does not seem fair, neither does labeling them

Answer 4

give him some positive attention? Go to the library or book store and get a book called the DQ factor.. it's EXCELLENT and it explains the 4 reasons why kids misbehave- and how you can identify which one your son is and the best way to use dicipline to get positive results! good luck!

http://www.amazon.com/Discover-Your-Childs-Factor-Discipline/dp/B000IOF09Y/sr=8-1/qid=1167808517/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/103-5494674-5931843?ie=UTF8&s=books

Answer 5

why do none of these things work? i can't see why putting a child on time out to stop teh behaviour, heck, KEEP them on timeout good luck